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[manav3]

its either seen as the worst sin possible, or it turns them on long enough to think you're easy!
excuse the typical female attitude towards men but it bothers me to no end.

[ßøß]

its either seen as the worst sin possible, or it turns them on long enough to think you're easy!
excuse the typical female attitude towards men but it bothers me to no end.

The red flag that goes up in my mind is, "What happened to cause her to not stay with the father of the child(ren)? If she was unwilling to commit to him when there was something so important involved then will she leave me by the wayside as well for something trivial?"

I know that it is typically considered a big no-no to talk about your ex early on in a relationship, but I want those questions answered on the first date. Otherwise, those nagging doubts could send me packing. I want to know that you either had a good reason or that you've learned from your mistakes.

[Bruce]

Ahh dont feel like your all alone, there are not many but I'm on the other end of the spectrum. Being a single full time dad brings a whole bunch of questions like ...How did he get custody........He must have stolen the child... I dont even want to go into the crap I went through enrolling him in school LOL. So dont feel all alone, there are men also that get the same from women

[Honeyluv]

On a positive note, some men look at this as a turn-on because they appreciate how it is to be a single parent. Though they don't admit, they like strong and independent women...

[Alison]

It has been my experience that being in the situation of being a single mom, stemmed out of a belief in the right to life. After becoming pregnant, the lesson was already learned!! So easy to judge when ur not faced with such a difficult decision. Those girls I know who chose termination are carrying a longer sentence. My daughter is now 19, going to college and is an extremely beautiful person. I also went to college and am in the process of returning again. I have worked all my life and own my own house and car. I am totally independent and very contented. And I also have a strict value and belief system. People who marginalise and stigmatise a group of people, whether they are, single parents, gay, of an ethnic minority or anything else are bullies and extremists who need to look at their own lives and question what gives them the right to make judgements. Yes, there are societal issues that need to be addressed, but every case and every child is unique, and should be treated thus.

[Gerry]

Sometimes I have found in my dating one of 3 things really turns me off.
1. She just wants a male figure for her kids and really doesn't want anything to do with you. This makes me feel used and cheated because you can't get to know who she really is.
2. They have been cheated on in their relationship or marriage and I am the next guy to get crapped on because she wants to get even with them.
3. They haven't been emotionally healed of a previous relationship and just want to satisfy there sexual urge and guys as well as women feel chaep and used.

I would one day like to meet a nice woman and I have been single many years and have become gun-shy about approaching women for dates or realtionships because of these issues. How about ladies am I right to think they way I do or am I wrong?

[Iza]

Sometimes I have found in my dating one of 3 things really turns me off.
1. She just wants a male figure for her kids and really doesn't want anything to do with you. This makes me feel used and cheated because you can't get to know who she really is.
2. They have been cheated on in their relationship or marriage and I am the next guy to get crapped on because she wants to get even with them.
3. They haven't been emotionally healed of a previous relationship and just want to satisfy there sexual urge and guys as well as women feel chaep and used.

I would one day like to meet a nice woman and I have been single many years and have become gun-shy about approaching women for dates or realtionships because of these issues. How about ladies am I right to think they way I do or am I wrong?

u're right Gerry, that's an honest answer. i believe that men usually gets turn off because of all the 3 u mentioned above. i've been single mother for quite a while now. my ex said he'll not let me hv the kids if i still wanted a divorce so he got the custody, but i stayed on the sublime... then after a few months he gave up and leave and i fought back for the custody. i just don't understand why most men scare their wife with "u cannot hv the children if u want to proceed with the divorce" and such... but i hv faith in fighting for what i believe in no matter how much people look down on my actions i know i did the right thing to divorce... anyway, tt's besides the point... i am independent, hvn't been trying to nail any guy to take a share of my responsibilities and deal with my insecurities.. hv been dealing with it constructively but still, at the mention of my divorce and the children, pooofff... gone.

[Chris]

I don't mind. As long as the kids aren't brats. I love kids.