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[Evan]

Did you ask if she beat him the day before? No. You never know and hitting is wrong; I learned that in kindergarten. But if she hit him, he should hit her back. Now, that said, breaking bones, etc. is an extreme... I'm saying that normally, hitting isn't "wrong" except for the person who hits first. But I was also thrown into a wall and not beat publicly... So what do I know...?

[Colin]

What's the point of this topic? What do you think of a guy who beats a lady?

Really?

Maybe we need a topic of "What do you think of a guy who kills people?" Sounds interesting.

[Evan]

What's the point of this topic? What do you think of a guy who beats a lady?

Really?

Maybe we need a topic of "What do you think of a guy who kills people?" Sounds interesting.

Well, I think it's okay to kill people for personal gain... oh, wait... never mind... *Vito, back to the car!*

[Colin]

I just think it's a useless topic. Like anyone is going to say "those wife beating guys ain't all bad" or "women just need to follow orders better and they'd be ok".

[SoundMan]

I have never ever hit or tried to hurt women or anyone else for that matter. Of course, if someone strikes me, I will defend myself, though I might tailor my response to the party involved. Women are not meant to be hurt! I prefer to talk and work things out peacefully rather than resort to violence with anyone I might have a conflict with. If it's that bad, the door is right there! I don't understand why a woman with any sense at all would choose an abusive relationship over one that's gentle and loving unless she herself has problems. I'm a lover, not a fighter, yet here I am single and alone. I guess a predictable (normal?) response isn't as exciting as not knowing whether you'll get a beating if you show up late or don't have dinner in time or when he's just drunk enough the anger comes through. An ex of mine who was seriously mentally ill took some swings at me, broke things when she didn't like what I said or when I broke a rule she changed in the middle of her game. One day I caught her hands and held her against the wall long enough to tell her I was done with this now and that it was over between us. Someone later told me that was assault and that I could be charged for not letting her hit me! Still, though she tried everything she could to get me to hurt her, I never did, and never will hurt a woman or a child, unless I'm in danger of death! The hardest part of this was that I loved her so much, and I just wanted her to be ok. She never really actually hurt me, other than emotionally. The idea of loving someone who could be as violent as she was passionate warped me for a time, though I eventually realized there was no hope for us and walked away before she ever pushed me to far. She made me WANT to hurt her. It scared me that someone could make me feel that way. I have tremendous self control, and know better than to let something escalate out of control, so I chose the door. It hurt me that someone I loved that much could make me want to hurt her, but I wouldn't. I couldn't. I loved her. I left her!! Good riddance. Moral of the story? Choose wisely! Realize if someone is that broken, you can't fix them, know when to walk away.... and when to run.

[Rose]

I just think it's a useless topic. Like anyone is going to say "those wife beating guys ain't all bad" or "women just need to follow orders better and they'd be ok".

With all my respects sir, i don't think it's a subject for jocks!!! Really some people get the point out of it, and they find it interesting..

[Mattie]

Did you ask if she beat him the day before? No. You never know and hitting is wrong; I learned that in kindergarten. But if she hit him, he should hit her back. Now, that said, breaking bones, etc. is an extreme... I'm saying that normally, hitting isn't "wrong" except for the person who hits first. But I was also thrown into a wall and not beat publicly... So what do I know...?

Have to respond to this one. I'm sorry but unless you're being attacked at that moment, there is no need and no excuse for it. If it was the day before, he has no right to attack her the next day, legally or morally. He defends himself at the time of attack and/or call the cops. Defending yourself is one thing but this? Nope, not acceptable. Yes, I know full well how bad some women can be ( I dated one guy who was afraid if his ex-wife knew about me, she would literally hunt me down to attack me) but come on. Revenge attacks aren't acceptable for gangs so why should they be for couples? He was just a _________.

[shane]

any man that hits a woman for no reason should be hung tbh

What reasons would those be where it was ok????

[Rose]

I have never ever hit or tried to hurt women or anyone else for that matter. Of course, if someone strikes me, I will defend myself, though I might tailor my response to the party involved. Women are not meant to be hurt! I prefer to talk and work things out peacefully rather than resort to violence with anyone I might have a conflict with. If it's that bad, the door is right there! I don't understand why a woman with any sense at all would choose an abusive relationship over one that's gentle and loving unless she herself has problems. I'm a lover, not a fighter, yet here I am single and alone. I guess a predictable (normal?) response isn't as exciting as not knowing whether you'll get a beating if you show up late or don't have dinner in time or when he's just drunk enough the anger comes through. An ex of mine who was seriously mentally ill took some swings at me, broke things when she didn't like what I said or when I broke a rule she changed in the middle of her game. One day I caught her hands and held her against the wall long enough to tell her I was done with this now and that it was over between us. Someone later told me that was assault and that I could be charged for not letting her hit me! Still, though she tried everything she could to get me to hurt her, I never did, and never will hurt a woman or a child, unless I'm in danger of death! The hardest part of this was that I loved her so much, and I just wanted her to be ok. She never really actually hurt me, other than emotionally. The idea of loving someone who could be as violent as she was passionate warped me for a time, though I eventually realized there was no hope for us and walked away before she ever pushed me to far. She made me WANT to hurt her. It scared me that someone could make me feel that way. I have tremendous self control, and know better than to let something escalate out of control, so I chose the door. It hurt me that someone I loved that much could make me want to hurt her, but I wouldn't. I couldn't. I loved her. I left her!! Good riddance. Moral of the story? Choose wisely! Realize if someone is that broken, you can't fix them, know when to walk away.... and when to run.

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[Lady1st]

Im 45 and never put up with this. But 2 years ago i completely fell head over heals with a guy who would always lay his hands on me. He did not punch me in the face but he did alot of other things hold me down,knock me in the head with his head,alot of demeaning words,choke me,in front of my kids he was always addicted to his zanax and would literally go crazy when he had none. He used drugs since he was 14 and his parents was always doing them script and non. He tried to wean off meth and for 2 years he did but then he went back to it once a week behind my back-I finally kicked him out I did not want to be choked anynore and it was all over a phone=he would think I snuck his phone-I did not I did not want to wake him-he was sick he decided to choke me-I loved him and he had many factors against him-I really wanted him to stay loving him but the meanes had to go. I feel if I stayed with him the meaness would be forever and his smart mouth that was THE WORST. Sure he had child abuse and was hit all the time as a kid-thats why I had EMPATHY, I would not hit back but I would yell at times in frustration of his frustations-he now is gone and is living with this lady that givesd him pain pills all the time -this would mellow him out-Good thing I was gonna get a doctor to get this for him and this would help with his back pain and -pain all togther but hes gone -He will be missed he did have many good points I would tell him about-but oh well he is gone

Mary, this guy was scum! I have back pain and lots of other pain I don't abuse anyone. Physically or verbally. I'm not addicted to medication or illegal drugs. He just used this as an excuse! Be glad the guy is gone.