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[Jocelynne]

What do guys mean when they say no baggage? Are they implying it to be emotional baggage, physical baggage or a person w/kids?? What's your take on this? Be honest and don't be shy.

I've never been told this but have seen it posted here and there. This was kind of my random thought of the day. So post away and I will await your reply.

Thanks in advance

[Michael]

Sometimes, there's nothing worse than hearing a woman moan about her ex.
People like that, aren't ready for another commitment, so dating someone and hearing all that crap, is just going to bring the other person down and that's not what they want.

[Colin]

That, and we don't want a girl who has some crazy ex-boyfriend or ex-husband that keeps coming around. That's baggage to me.

[Dan]

preferably not a homeless bag lady?

[Jocelynne]

Thanks guys it brings clarity to my mind. I was actually thinking about this while I was mowing my "football yard ". That 's what I get for living "out in the sticks".

Good thing I don't bash on my ex's - I'd rather not take the time.

[Redcapote]

You've gotten some good advice thus far in this thread. Let me take this conversation one step deeper for a moment. Picture a terrorist in an airport, and he's got a suitcase bomb. He intends to blow up a plane in the near future. You're sitting there at the terminal, surrounded by other people, minding your own business, listening to your iPod, immune to the world, eyes closed, etc. You're in your own bubble, oblivious to your surroundings. He manages to sneak his little suitcase bomb into your carry-on. And when you're on that airplane, cruising at 35,000 feet, and you least expect it.... BOOM. Your subconscious explodes, your depression spikes, your attitude plummets, your desires dissipate, your ability to be rational is gone, obviously, because there's chaos, and fear, and you're inverted. Things are out of control. Your plane is going down. Anyone on that plane is going down too. It's a catastrophe and the families of these innocent bystanders are going to have to live through the pain also.


That's baggage.


And the terrorist was either A) your past relationships, B) your finances, C) your family (including kids you've produced, or D) choices you've made in the past.

People don't often come into a relationship with intelligence, thinking about these possible disasters and working to minimize their risks by taking proper precautions. No, they slam into each other like go-carts at a race track looking to make Hot Wheel replicas. If it works it works, they say, and if it doesn't oh well, they say. Well my friend, your little go-cart has taken a beating, and soon you won't be able to keep up with the rest of the pack, no matter how hard you try.

But you know what, people who say they don't want any baggage, often say that because there's no more room left after all their bags are packed. You better pack light with people like that.

[Jocelynne]

Hi redcapote, thanks for the laugh that was well thought out and well said.

[Redcapote]

My pleasure.

[Justin Petrick]

Drama and kids. But some don't see kids as baggage.

[Crafty]

What about pets? Would that be baggage to you guys? I got 2 birds and 2 dogs and would love to have goldfish again soon.

I have found guys say anything they find wrong with you as baggage. I am someone who have many male friends, they are only friends, no sex. Would that be baggage to you too?