Re: What am I missing here?
Ok, Khamalama~ I really like your second post answer; I realised the first was not meant to be serious~ but that was my point, methinks Laura was asking a serious question.
Laura~ I think our culture encourages both genders to continue to believe that women need rescuing. How many movies do you watch where the woman rescues the bloke? how many fairy tales and kids shows have women as the rescuer? How many magazine covers portray women as saying with their body "I am strong willed, vibrant and capable" as opposed to "I am sexy" or "come f**ck me", vice versa how many covers show men giving these two messages? How many advertisments continue to use male characters for reliability, strength, endurance etc? How much of our language associates women with "not knowing what they want/talking about" and men with "being the leader/boys club or big brother BS we'll take care of you" mentality.
I went on a date two weeks ago. I made it clear we were going in different directions (he wanted exclusive relationship I want the bachelorette lifestyle at the moment); he agreed to cultivate a friendship. It became clear thorugh conversation and his texts that he thought I needed rescuing~ that I was afraid of something and he set himself up as my knight~ so already I do not feel listened to. He pushes and pushes to meet again~ I tell him this is not appreciated. When I do phone him to meet at a pub for a casual catch up his behaviour is one of a***hole, so I'm like such behaviour is not what I want in a friend, cya later.
That I refused to accept the role/label of rescuee I was retaliated against with pathetic bullying tactics to push me into accepting his worldview. He is incredibly lonely, can't understand why his wife left him and obviously did not make the effort to meet other women while "befriending" me, thus becoming overly emotionally committed. He felt justified in doing this becasue he felt that a woman needs rescuing.