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[~*K0in0philia*~]

Call me old fashioned or what not but I just hit the dating scene a year ago. Was with the same man for 12 yrs it ended in a very good way, we've been over 3 yrs and now finally started dating this past year. The dating world has changed soo much in my eyes, and seems like all guys want is just sex, and my friends all have their booty call boys and such and I asked them why not a relationship? So how can people seperate love and sex so easily now days? I can't seem to do that or find a guy that doesn't just want sex. Ugh so I am asking the guys to give me their point of view on women who want relationships vs. women who don't what is more appealing? Should I have to change to go with the times?
Thanks..

[Elma]

I agree, sex seems to be the only thing men are looking for.
I was in a 10yrs relationship so it took me a while to be ready to go out there and what a shock that was.
I would really like to see answers to your question as well.

[~*K0in0philia*~]

I know isn't it odd and it seems the women also just want sex.. so that leaves women like us kind of stranded... To me that makes sex over rated and just an action of making yourself feel good or something.

[Palionu]

I agree that the women I've met only care about sex. I told her flat out that it really isn't the most important thing to me and the latest woman I called was put off by it. What happened to emotional connections or just plain old regular silly fun? Watch a movie, go to the beach, etc.

[Colin]

Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex.... ALL I THINK ABOUT IS SEX! All I want is sex!

but...

I really want to find the right woman to do it with. Sex is probably one of the most important things in life, but I've also come to that point where it's not the most important thing like it used to be. Don't get me wrong, sex in a relationship is like breathing to a human body... if you stop doing it then it's going to die.

But, you spend much more time doing things that are not sex, so I think it's more important to find someone that also makes you happy during all of that other time. I need to find someone that will stimulate me mentally as well as physically.

[Samira]

of course all some men want is sex and if they can get it without the relationship then thats a bonus. ..... i think many women say its just the sex when deep down they do have slight feelings for their sex buddy women are just like that while men have the ability to have sex without any emotional involvement...guess thats how their built...honesly speaking i have tryed having a friend with privileges it didnt last very long i would much rather be a realationship..... but i guess some girls are ok with being second best and sometimes third.. x

[Optiron]

Call me old fashioned or what not but I just hit the dating scene a year ago. Was with the same man for 12 yrs it ended in a very good way, we've been over 3 yrs and now finally started dating this past year. The dating world has changed soo much in my eyes, and seems like all guys want is just sex, and my friends all have their booty call boys and such and I asked them why not a relationship? So how can people seperate love and sex so easily now days? I can't seem to do that or find a guy that doesn't just want sex. Ugh so I am asking the guys to give me their point of view on women who want relationships vs. women who don't what is more appealing? Should I have to change to go with the times?
Thanks..

To quote a line in the movie The Shawshank Redemption, "The world has gone and gotten itself in a big damn hurry."

Now a days the trend seems to lean towards going for the immediate gratification of immediate sex and fun first and then aim for the more long term relationship later. My advice? Just date and go out and have fun...you were in a relationship for a long time...dont aim for another one right away with the first guy you go out with. Loosen up and just enjoy what life has to offer both mentally and physically and eventually your next victim....I mean relationship minded man will come along and there ya go. While yes most men want sex...in the back of our minds we are looking for the one as well...just not in a hurry to get it.

[Elma]

Call me old fashioned or what not but I just hit the dating scene a year ago. Was with the same man for 12 yrs it ended in a very good way, we've been over 3 yrs and now finally started dating this past year. The dating world has changed soo much in my eyes, and seems like all guys want is just sex, and my friends all have their booty call boys and such and I asked them why not a relationship? So how can people seperate love and sex so easily now days? I can't seem to do that or find a guy that doesn't just want sex. Ugh so I am asking the guys to give me their point of view on women who want relationships vs. women who don't what is more appealing? Should I have to change to go with the times?
Thanks..

To quote a line in the movie The Shawshank Redemption, "The world has gone and gotten itself in a big damn hurry."

Now a days the trend seems to lean towards going for the immediate gratification of immediate sex and fun first and then aim for the more long term relationship later. My advice? Just date and go out and have fun...you were in a relationship for a long time...dont aim for another one right away with the first guy you go out with. Loosen up and just enjoy what life has to offer both mentally and physically and eventually your next victim....I mean relationship minded man will come along and there ya go. While yes most men want sex...in the back of our minds we are looking for the one as well...just not in a hurry to get it.

That is what we are trying to do...that is date and have fun but all we get is well i´m just after the sex. Not all women go so far on first or second date
How fantastic it would be if there were any men left that were just ok with a date or few before going first base

[Omid]

Call me old fashioned or what not but I just hit the dating scene a year ago. Was with the same man for 12 yrs it ended in a very good way, we've been over 3 yrs and now finally started dating this past year. The dating world has changed soo much in my eyes, and seems like all guys want is just sex, and my friends all have their booty call boys and such and I asked them why not a relationship? So how can people seperate love and sex so easily now days? I can't seem to do that or find a guy that doesn't just want sex. Ugh so I am asking the guys to give me their point of view on women who want relationships vs. women who don't what is more appealing? Should I have to change to go with the times?
Thanks..

I haven't met a women who doesn't want a relationship along with sex. you don't exist. dont know about any trend like that. a booty call is a booty call and no amount of spin is going to make is change from being an on going, dirty, for fun & pleasure hump fest. if that's what YOU want get on with it, but if your not serious then you should evaluate why you want turn in to a easy sleezy. if you're worried about having mutiple ongoing easy partners and what that makes you and you're afraid then stop or stop being afraid and call it what it is.

Trust me, don't start screwing just because you think it's the way the a trend is going.

a slut is a slut no matter how you spin it. and are we talking about one guy or multiple guys eventually. be true to yourself and if one guy is giving it to you the right way and your not serious about him and happy with being just f-buddies with him then continue. If that's all he wants is to screw and you don't want to feel sleezy dump the meatbag. there are other men that want more than screw time with the next sex object that comes along their path, and they will not lie about it. one word of caution. this and every other date site is full of people looking for sex and not a relationship. advice to you is be out there rather than in hear to find the right guy. at least don't make this your only way of meeting men.

[~*K0in0philia*~]

Yes the world is in a damn hurry. And trust me I know all men think about is sex, but I dont want to meet a guy and him be like an octopus-like over me.. yuck! While I am trying to find out if we are compatable if even just for sex, hes busy humpin my leg. Well thats a huge turn off.
I am relaxing and viewing lifes interesting dating world, but I also want to know what has become of it and is it like this everywhere. And I guess yes it is.
Don't get me wrong here, sex is awesome. And yes I do know its a must in life. But this "ok we know eachothers first name lets have sex" is crazy. I guess I really asked this from a few encounters I recently had. I met the guy and he was head first trying to get my clothes off. And then since I think its because we didn't have sex he hasn't talked to me since. None of them! Jeesh say a sentence or two run around the room a few times, tell me your last name.. or even I dont even know.. thats why I am asking everyone on here.
I feel like a dork and out of times, but I guess I am confused on the last few dates I have had. I feel like since I didnt put out they got up and left. I know the heck with them and I have no problems with that since the octopus armed men turned me way off. So thats it this is what the world is like ..wow. So sad to think you have to put out to find out. Thats dumb as hell. If I want to put out I will but not with some guy who's all over me the minute we meet thats just not right. Smooth into it.