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by Al 15 days, 3 hours ago

I have a strange theory about this.

Alot of guys are jerks because they had bad examples of fathers who were jerks. In my humble opinion, if someone is raised right and taught not to cheat, not to abuse, not to divorce, and to treat their partner/girlfriend/wife with respect at all times, then they'll emulate that as a man. I lost my dad last month, and i've had a lot of time to think about what a man he was and how lucky my mom was to find someone like him...and vice-versa. He taught me what it means to be a man, and the whole "don't be a complete moron towards women" kind of goes without saying. He never hit my mom, never spoke of divorce, never even thought about cheating, and provided for her very handsomely, and they had 27 years together. It was awesome.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys out there don't have as incredible of a father as I did. Maybe that's why they're such asses to women. Just a thought...

by **guesss my name :)** 9 days, 6 hours ago

well yes they are. BUT this is the internet, you shouldn't be offended for those kind of messages, in fact; it should be flattering that someone would want to have sex with you, i never get those type of messages, so don't get offended if you do. and from what you are saying; you should only be offended when someone says that in REAL life, then you should worry about it because that guy is looking at you just like a sex object. so just cool down, if someone is wanting to have sex with you, it means you are attractive to someone. and that's always a good compliment.

you should only be offended if someone sends you a messages telling you ugly stuff...

by **Nathaniel** 9 days ago

I personally respond respectively or even with a little charm and still get no response, so you can be a gentlemen, a bully, a player or a jerk and it doesn't matter. No one gets responses from these girls anyways, dating sites are a time killer and the odds of finding anyone online are so against you that you have a better chance of winning the lottery. I have never heard any advice from anyone that was good enough to improve anyone's odds of dating successfully online (much less meeting offline face to face, progressively promoting the relationship). I think most women are too afraid to respond to guys they think are legite, so they just avoid everyone...so sad. Ever since the invention of the internet people have been increasingly using the internet to connect with people and less time spent face to face. We have become a society of anti-social people, we avoid each other in public but can be quite charming and enthusiastic online (when we want to be). What a waste of energy and time we spend impressing people we will never meet. "What a web we weave, when at first we try to deceive." I'm so glad I have ### where I know real people face to face, thank God.

by **Shane** 9 days ago

yeah i know we are but hey would you like us as much if we werent. I think not you complain about guys being jerks and liars and cheats etc but hey you are the ones choosing them so take your licks and move on i say :lol:

by **Crafty** 3 days, 19 hours ago

I certainly don't use the internet for easy pick ups. I totally believe in finding "Mr Right" online. I got a few friends who has and they are married with children now. I know women can be jerks too, if I can say that. But we do it in a different way to men. Men are jerks as they use the internet dating sites for finding a one night stand or a #### buddy! I know straight away when I have been on a few dates with the same person what he wants.

I find it so sad that men that got looks, style and the whole package are acting in that way. So I can only say: "No wonder men are jerks" when treating women like that!!!

by **Jim** 2 days, 14 hours ago

based on comments I've read by most women, they simply just don't like winks, they want an original comment, yet guys continually wink at them. Maybe if the guys actually read the girl's profile it would help???

by **Crafty** 2 days, 3 hours ago

Jim wrote:based on comments I've read by most women, they simply just don't like winks, they want an original comment, yet guys continually wink at them. Maybe if the guys actually read the girl's profile it would help???

YES, that is what you guys need to do. Read our profile and see if you can relate to what we are looking for and if we got something in common. I find guys in general just look into the physical side of things. Women in general look more from within.

by **Shane** 2 days, 2 hours ago

Crafty wrote:

Jim wrote:based on comments I've read by most women, they simply just don't like winks, they want an original comment, yet guys continually wink at them. Maybe if the guys actually read the girl's profile it would help???

YES, that is what you guys need to do. Read our profile and see if you can relate to what we are looking for and if we got something in common. I find guys in general just look into the physical side of things. Women in general look more from within.

Sorry but that is bs and u are generalising way to much. Not all men just look and physical side of things i have been single for 13 months and if i was just looking for a physical connection dont think it would be that hard to find.

And as for your coment "women in general look from within" :lol:

Check out womens profiles "tall dark handsome" man they drag out all the cliches.
Am sick of guys taking all the flack round here when hey we are only 50% of the problem 8-)

by **Crafty** 1 day, 21 hours ago

Shane wrote:

Crafty wrote:

Jim wrote:based on comments I've read by most women, they simply just don't like winks, they want an original comment, yet guys continually wink at them. Maybe if the guys actually read the girl's profile it would help???

YES, that is what you guys need to do. Read our profile and see if you can relate to what we are looking for and if we got something in common. I find guys in general just look into the physical side of things. Women in general look more from within.

Sorry but that is bs and u are generalising way to much. Not all men just look and physical side of things i have been single for 13 months and if i was just looking for a physical connection dont think it would be that hard to find.

And as for your coment "women in general look from within"
Check out womens profiles "tall dark handsome" man they drag out all the cliches.
Am sick of guys taking all the flack round here when hey we are only 50% of the problem

Ok, you are right about you being 50% of the problem. What I meant with men looking at the physical side only is "PHOTOS". I have so many looking at me without looking at how tall I am. I consider height to be a very important thing and why do I get men that are so much shorter than me replying to me. I even state that in my profile specifically. I get commented on my photos: "Nice photo, nice smile etc".

I know there are women that are exactly like men as to the way of doing things. But I am not one of them and either do I have friends that are, so this is from my point of view. I know men say exactly the same things about women. Men and women are different and YES we have problems with one another, but that doesn't mean men can be jerks and cowards and have a too big ego to not explain themselves. Communication is very important and I find too many men don't express the true feeling about how they feel. I much rather have someone tell me in the open they are not interested than just not hearing anything from them at all. And again, women are the same!

by **Shane** 1 day, 21 hours ago

Thank you very much for that

Its just i get sick of most of the posts are "men are cheats, liars, scum etc when i am none of these things. I put up one post "women are bitches"(dont relly believe that) and didnt hear the end of it for days. so to all those women who sent me emails telling me what sort of person i am thanks but dont think i will take any of your advice :lol: