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Postby Marti on Mon Mar 02, 2009 8:10 am

Tell me what you think so for please! I've been seeing this guy for 3 weeks, I met him a couple of days before Valentines day and he asked me to be his valentine date. Well the day before valentines he canceled on me, he said his friend was getting married that day. He never did anything for me for Valentines, he said he would take me out to dinner and give me a rose and never did.

I met hin at a club, he goes a lot. He says he goes with his friends but wont ever let me go with them, he says they act crazy and he doesn't want me around them althogh he's knows they would not try to hit on my. I don't get that. So it makes me think he is going to meet other girls or is going with girls or is really doing something else he doesn't want me to know about.

He's only taken me out on a date once and to a movie. I'm still trying to get to know him but we haven't had much alone time to do that.

This weekend his plans were to go out to clubs Friday night, and go out with friends Saturday and Saturday night, he had no plan with me this weekend, I asked him about it and he said we would do something Sunday, but he never called me Sunday so we didn't do anything.

When we are together he acts interested in me so I don't know if I should keep seeing him or not. I called him last night at 8:30 he said he was cooking call him back, I called him at 10:00 he said he was eating and the food was too spicy so he would have to call me back. He called me back 40 minutes later. I thought that was weird!

He also hangs out with his "married" friend when he goes to bars and wanted me to bring a friend for him too. Then he said if something happens, then it happens! Like he has cheated before.

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Re: Please explain

Postby Alan on Tue Mar 03, 2009 3:53 am

I am sorry but it sounds like he is married or something, have you met his family yet, on valentines day, he canceled on you because his friend was getting married that day, why did he not ask you to go to the wedding with him, you could have met all his friends, he's only taken you out on a date once to a movie, and yet you have been seeing him for three weeks, sorry but if that was me, I would want to spend as much time as I could with you, so to get to know you better, meet your family, meet my family, and walk down the street holding hands showing you off, don't take my advice, but ask him what is going on, he is with you, or he is not with you.

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Re: Please explain

Postby Karmallama on Tue Mar 03, 2009 4:51 am

Shaaaadeeeee.

1)- Who forgets that their mate is getting married on Valentines Day? It's not like they only organise it the few days before?

2)- Why didn't he invite you? (as Allan said)

3)- beware of people that only want to see you on a Sunday day. It's the most popular day for 'booty calls'. Nothing else is going on, their friends are all at home relaxing and they just want to get laid. It's the most middle-of-the-road day there is for a relationship. If Saturday night is Prime Time - Sunday Day is Daytime TV, and you're Jeremy Kyle.

4)- asking you to bring a friend for his married friend is very dodgy and he only has one thing in mind. IF something happens? IF? Bullsh*t. His friend is playing around and he probably is too. I wouldn't be surprised if he was out with his own wife on Valentines Day.

Sorry for being blunt, but I'm against the clock and have to go to work. :)Have a nice day!

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Re: Please explain

Postby Marti on Tue Mar 03, 2009 11:42 am

Hey,

Thank you for your input!

I'm already a little scorned after what he did on Valentines day. He asked me to be his date then canceled! He said we would celebrate it that week that he would take me out to dinner and give me a rose. Guess what? He never did.

Plus he didn't make any plans with me over the weekend. When I talked to him about it he said we would do something Sunday....we never did! I didn't talk to him until that night.

I really liked him, but not anymore.

He talks to me during the week and will see me during the week, but when the weekend comes around he is busy with his friends that I'm not allowed to be around. I'm not allowed to be around his "friends" because he says they act stupid. So when they all go to bars, I'm not allowed. Which by the way is frequent, during the week and on the weekend, with his "friends" and his married friend.

I think his "friends" he is referring to are girls he and his married friend hangs out with. He says he has to go out with his friends or they will stop asking him out.

Too much weirdness.

Like when I called him the other night at 8:30 he was cooking, I was going to a friends. He said call when I left friends house. So at 10:00 I called him....he said I have to call you back I'm eating dinner and it's too spicy.
40 minutes later I sent him a text and said How long does it take to eat dinner?

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Re: Please explain

Postby Char on Tue Mar 03, 2009 3:33 pm

he is not being straight with you methinks

I think he enjoys the attention you give him

he seems to like the club scene, is this what you are into?

his behaviour implies he "in just not that into you"~ maybe you and he are going in different directions~ you want to get to know him as a person, and he seems to be avoiding that.

It's his journey, I know there are stacks of other guys out there keen for a woman to be interested in them as a person :-)

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Re: Please explain

Postby Laura on Mon Mar 09, 2009 1:28 pm

Here Here. Sounds like a big game or a "booty call". If he is interested and wants to date you he will come around and treat you right.

If he is really like that now, he wont change. Do you really want him?

Plenty of others out there. The attention might be nice, but dont chase for it. Someone will be there to offer it with no problem. It seems that you can inturn offer it back.

Wait for the right one.

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Re: Please explain

Postby Neosdad on Tue Mar 24, 2009 3:27 pm

Hey Marti, Tonight dinner is at 7:30, and this week-end we'll do dinner on Friday and maybe take in a movie on Sunday. Saturday I'm escorting both of my beautiful daughters to a wedding. They invited me to take them, or I'd would have asked you! Oh yeah, tonight I'm grilling chicken and bratwurst, with a side of angelhair pasta and a vegetable. Are green beans okay! This is the kind of conversations you should be having with a guy. Oh yeah by the way, if you are interested let me know, I'd love to have you over. My oldest daughter will only be here for 5 more days, then she's moving back to England, and it would be great if you could meet her before she leaves. Both girls will be here for dinner as well. Hope to hear back from you, Pat

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Re: Please explain

Postby Karmallama on Wed Mar 25, 2009 3:52 pm

Neosdad wrote:...tonight I'm grilling chicken and bratwurst, with a side of angelhair pasta and a vegetable...


God Almighty, PLEASE let the mystery vegetable be a couple of small potatoes or sprouts. Not that I'm childish or anything, but served either side of a Bratwurst with Angel Hair Spaghetti, I'm absolutely certain I could offer some serving suggestions that would at LEAST get a conversation started.

For dessert you could also have a banana split, with two scoops of strawberry ice cream and candy floss...

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Re: Please explain

Postby Laura on Thu Mar 26, 2009 4:35 pm

Maybe some KFC?

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Re: Please explain

Postby Karmallama on Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:03 pm

Now I'm not one to turn down the sweet, sweet allure of a free KFC (If anybody hasn't read the other posts about me having addiction issues, I'm just weird ok. You don't want more details. :D) But it doesn't quite fit in with the rudimentary male reproductive organ based dishes I was suggesting he tries earlier.

But I like the way you think. KFC is DEFINITELY the way forward.

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