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[miss contrary]

I am new to this dating stuff...on line or otherwise....I am curious, when is it appropriate to engage in sex if you are wanting a lasting relationship. Not to offend, but so many guys seem to be ready in the 1st 5 minutes. I just think that giving in too soon is not a good idea. I suspect I am right but know that i am older and out of touch with todays practices. Not even sure if this was asked right.

[Michael]

You must do what you feel is right and act on instinct.
If you don't feel that you should on the first date, then you shouldn't.

[JohnW]

I am new to this dating stuff...on line or otherwise....I am curious, when is it appropriate to engage in sex if you are wanting a lasting relationship. Not to offend, but so many guys seem to be ready in the 1st 5 minutes. I just think that giving in too soon is not a good idea. I suspect I am right but know that i am older and out of touch with todays practices. Not even sure if this was asked right.

I think that if you want a really good man you souldn't give it up too soon cuz us good guys are willing to wait for you to get ready and get to know you first, we value the fact that you want to get to know us first! Hope this helps!

[Dayna]

[quote="miss contrary"]I am new to this dating stuff...on line or otherwise....I am curious, when is it appropriate to engage in sex if you are wanting a lasting relationship. Not to offend, but so many guys seem to be ready in the 1st 5 minutes. I just think that giving in too soon is not a good idea. I suspect I am right but know that i am older and out of touch with todays practices. Not even sure if this was asked right.

I think if you want a long lasting relationship you should make sure you are both as interested in each other and that means waiting a little bit (ie. after maybe 3 or 4 dates?). The problem is if you have sex and he's not that into you (hate to steal titles from books) most likely he won't knock back the sex and you'll misconstrue this for genuine feelings and you'll feel taken advantage of when it doesn't amount to anything. If you are happy to just have a shag and don't care whether it goes further then go for it, but realise that he might write you off because he considers you too easy and he'll think if you're that way with him you might be that way with others and many guys don't like that. I am by no means an expert in men, if I was I'd have them worked out myself - just my two cents worth good luck hope you find "him".

[miss contrary]

I do appreciate the responses and they basically agree with me....now if I can just hold off....as it has been soooooooooooo long!!!! LOL
I think I would be shooting myself in the foot not to just give in.

[bratt]

hi, now this is coming for from a woman of 46, if u are looking for a long term relationship, u can talk until u r green in the face, if ur hot, ur date is going to try, if u do it on the first date, u will never c him again. it also depends on u, c how u feel, maybe u might want to let loose. i would say 9 or 10 full dates. kiss, cuddle, but dont do it, men respect it and u. make sure u talk to him alot find out every thing u can. so when u do go on a date, ur familiar with each other, its not totally blind, lol also, when he gets there and u c each other for the first time u may not want to even have dinner, i say dont, save the guy a few bucks. lol u have to have chemistry and u wont find that out to u meet him and c him. he may not look the way u look, dont take it the wrong way, dating is a sport, oh watch out for scammers, dont give anyone money for anything. this is the best site and its free. they still sneak in.

9 to 10 dates and relax, new sex? sex will always be sex. dont do anything until u r comfortable and protect ur self, u stop at the store, just in case, u let loose lol
hope it helped. bratt

[Robert]

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[Colin]

now if I can just hold off....as it has been soooooooooooo long!!!! LOL
I think I would be shooting myself in the foot not to just give in.

It almost sounds like you might want to have sex with someone you feel comfortable with as soon as you can. I get the feeling that since it's been so long and you obviously want it, that you might make bad choices in other areas to satisfy that desire.

[miss contrary]

you are so right

[Legendary (Michael)]

Don't have sex in first 3 months if possible.