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[Crafty]

ok, John. U can love more than 1 person at the time. But u only love "the one" alone. There r different ways of loving someone. U love in the caring way and then u have the thing called lust. Now love and lust are 2 very different things. I know many men that I have met on the internet and they have thought they loved. U only or at least I hope u only have sex with one person at the time. As far as I am concerned if u love more than one person and have sex with them, u r nothing but a cheater.

[Nathan]

were all human we can love multiple things in multiple ways

I think its completly possible to love more then 1 person in a mature adult relationship way

however I do think in true human love once it gets deep enough your care for that person overcomes all other desires and your desire to never hurt them would overcome desires for others in that manner.

Though i think its perfectly possible to love your wife or husband and still love another at the same time

e.g. we never get over some x's or we always have feelings for past summer long flings etc but they dont take the place of the one your commited to

[Al]

Some things are taboos for a reason. There's a lot to be said for monogamy. I think it's more respectable because it shows a dedication to someone besides yourself.

[I am FreeHookup]

Absolutely! It is possibly to love more than one person for men or women, I would believe. You don't have to love someone to be married to them, and no one person has all of the qualities that we would want in life anyway.

I didn't say that this would be easy on people; we love people in differt ways and for different reasons.

[Jeremy]

Love should not be associated with sex.
People have this mistake of sometimes referring to sex as "Making love." and it's true, Love is a verb.. you do it.
I did love 2 women at the same time, one was my wife, and the other was a neighbor. It was platonic, it had to be. My personal morality permits me from otherwise.
But for the sake of arguement, if I could have, I would have had intimate relations with bothe of them, with all intact feelings and special moments. It would not have been a perveted thing, at least not to me. But thousands of year in human history has proven that in normal situations, this is pretty much impossible.. To have a pure relationship with 2 people, and be physically intimate. Either simultaneously, or on seperate occasions.

This is a tough subject, and it's only possible to those raised a certain way to see Love and sexual privacy as an unassociated quality.
Sharing one's self with someone is usually sacred. If you are not a religious person, but spiritual, it is possible to share this intimate expression with multiple partners, yet keep the purity intact.

it's nearly impossible, and like I said, history doesn't stand well to that theory.

[David]

Its possible to love two or more people at once but i think that you can only truely really love (properly) one girl at a time. The others is a different sort of love.

[Crafty]

Its possible to love two or more people at once but i think that you can only truely really love (properly) one girl at a time. The others is a different sort of love.

Thank you David. That is what I mean with loving one person.

And for the record "I don't love any of my ex-boyfriends". You can love someone as a friend (that is pure friendship: no sex) and then you have the person you love and are intimate with. There is no way I could be intimate with 2 men at the same time. To me that is being untrue to someone. I can see someone getting hurt too.

It all depends on what kind of "love" we are talking about. Confusing for sure. I certainly say men don't say the "love you" thing as often as a woman. I certainly have experienced men saying "they like you", but that doesn't mean they "love". There is a BIG difference between LOVE and LUST!

[down_in_flames5252]

I think 10 or so years ago my answer to this question may have been different....but now that I have known "true" love at least once, I dont see how its possible to feel that way for 2 at the same time. You would go nuts.

[Dan]

I think its a little greedy when some men don't have one women, but if he can get away with it and the women are ok with it, then he is a lucky chap. I suppose he has less chance of getting bored if he can interact with two. As for true love, I'm really not sure. To be fare, maybe the women should also have two husbands.