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[Oasis]

My bf doesn't like to have sex very often, kiss, pash, enjoy oral sex, cuddle, grope, touch or hold me?? it's almost like he's a shy boy or a puppet on a string? he loves to get high on porn, meet sexy chat friends online and google at every other womens goodies in front of me.... What is the fckn problem? The reason why I find it hard to leave is bcos we have a 2 year old boy and have been together 4 years after a 2 year friendship.. Someone just shoot me please Cowboy styles..

[jonnibeau]

He's obviously still interested in sex, but perhaps the two of you have hit a slump in your sexual relationship. And also, I don't want to put doubt in your mind, but if he's not having sex with you...Well I won't even finish that thought. The best advice I can give is to sit him down and lay it all out there. If he doesn't want to talk, then the he doesn't value the relationship enough. Also, a child is not a good reason to stay in a relationship. You can both be good, involved parents without sacrificing your own happiness. Sometimes hon, you just gotta let 'em go.

[Mark]

Be forceful. I think you need to throw him down and practically rape him. Wear something sexy and revealing, and do anything he wants.

[jonnibeau]

Be forceful. I think you need to throw him down and practically rape him. Wear something sexy and revealing, and do anything he wants.

That's really good advice too.

[Adrian]

Sounds to me that the reason he's not being so sexually aggressive with you is because he's getting it from somewhere else or has taken you for granted.

he loves to get high on porn, meet sexy chat friends online and google at every other womens goodies in front of me.... What is the fckn problem?

Come on i'm suprised you didn't see it when you typed it out. If the passion is gone in a relationship then it's just buddies and I would end it in an instant if that happened to me. Sucks about the kid though.

[Christopher]

to the OP,

if the passion has died off there are a few things that might have happened...

1. If he still gets high off of porn one concusion is that you are not attractive to him anymore or does not find you on a passionate/sexual level as you two once were.

2. he gets off to porn too much and thinks its better to go solo.

3. I hate to say it there is/are other girls he is with behind your back not having enough sexual energy to tango with you at the end of the day...

4. he does not think the sex was as good as it was before


At any rate you will need to sit him down and have a serious conversation with him about this.
The best way to solve the problem is to talk about it.

[Sherrhonda]

There is nothing wrong with not having sex all the time or even him getting off to porn. Some men enjoy the me time, women even enjoy that me time.
Get some sexy lingerie, if he likes porn then put some on and get busy. Use what he likes to your advantage. Spice up the sex. If that doesn't work then you probably need to have that talk, because then that signal is leading towards he not interested in YOU! or maybe something is wrong with IT.

And if he still finding the time to gawk at other girl and chat online with these women then there is something wrong. Honestly the clues seem to be pointing to another women. You should be asking yourself if he's not getting it from me then who is he getting it from. But before re-evaluate your sexual relationship from the past, because a drastic change means something. Another thing is go with what your gut, if you have a good relationship and you know your man then your gut won't usually won't steer you wrong.

Don't ever use children as an excuse to stay,I've used that excuse it's a poor one, because if your relationship is not right your kids will definitely feel it too.