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[Brooke]

I had this boyfriend for 6 months. He told me I was everything he has ever looked for. He told me he loved me and cared for me. He was the first to say he loved me. Then as the relationship progressed I told him I was in love with him. He started lying about stupid shit, that I would find out about. Then he comes over one day and says he just doesn't want to hurt me anymore, because he isn't in love with me. I told him people fall in love at different times. He said he still loved me and cared for me, but wasn't in love with me. I said if you feel this way how can you let me go? I just don't get it. Maybe someone could give me a good answer as to why?

[Gertjan]

I had this boyfriend for 6 months. He told me I was everything he has ever looked for. He told me he loved me and cared for me. He was the first to say he loved me. Then as the relationship progressed I told him I was in love with him. He started lying about stupid shit, that I would find out about. Then he comes over one day and says he just doesn't want to hurt me anymore, because he isn't in love with me. I told him people fall in love at different times. He said he still loved me and cared for me, but wasn't in love with me. I said if you feel this way how can you let me go? I just don't get it. Maybe someone could give me a good answer as to why?

My 2 cents on this: He just didn't want to go further than you were willing to take it. Felt uncomfortable and looked for a reason to leave. Some people just use the LOVE word so easily and others can't say it untill it's true love. Sorry to hear it happened to you.

[Lady1st]

I dated a man for four years then heard that. I still don't quite understand it. I can tell you two things 1) He was careful never to use the "Love" word it was "I care for you". Then one day he left me for someone he knew before. Painful.

[Colin]

He said he still loved me and cared for me, but wasn't in love with me.

It's easier to say something like that than "you're not as interesting as you used to be" or "I've found a different girl I'm more interested in", or something like that.
It was his way of ending the relationship while trying not to hurt your feelings so much. Of course it might not work out that way in your eyes, but it was his way of using kid gloves.

[Brooke]

Thanks for your responses. I took them into great consideration.

[Justin Petrick]

He was lonely. He told you what you wanted to hear until he found something else to move on to. He probably did it to them too. He is not the commitment type and probably doesn't even know what love is. Move on, he is a snake.

Peace.

[Cailey]

I had a similar experience. It was my first bf and he told me constantly I was the one, and how he loved me so much, he would never leave me. But once I caved and gave him what he really wanted(sex), he just backed off. He sent me text messages all the time, but never would come see me or talk to me or anything! I was so upset! I was so angry at him. I didn't understand how he could do that to me? I thought he loved me and he just left. I moved not long after, and he began to call me again. Told me he was sorry and he wanted me back. I was to angry with him. I refused to return to him. I told him if he really cared he could come to me. Was that wrong of me? Should I have given him a second chance? Should i have gone back to him?

[James]

he lied to you....When I say it I mean ###s not something that should just roll off youre lips like youre ordering youre double double.I hate when the younger kids say it.I here it all the time.
I liked that you gave it time to feel the relationship grow and know for sure in youre heart when to say it....just my .02

[Jason]

I had this boyfriend for 6 months. He told me I was everything he has ever looked for. He told me he loved me and cared for me. He was the first to say he loved me. Then as the relationship progressed I told him I was in love with him. He started lying about stupid shit, that I would find out about. Then he comes over one day and says he just doesn't want to hurt me anymore, because he isn't in love with me. I told him people fall in love at different times. He said he still loved me and cared for me, but wasn't in love with me. I said if you feel this way how can you let me go? I just don't get it. Maybe someone could give me a good answer as to why?

Well he already told you, it is time to move on and find someone who truely cares about you. Just accept it and best of luck to you.

[Árni]

Should I have given him a second chance? Should i have gone back to him?

Absolutely not. It's just another lie to make you happy and hopeful, to get you into bed again.