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['Angel']

I like this guy but he is 4 years older than me and he has girlfriend he really likes and she is my brothers girlfriends cousin, and I dont want the guy I like to cheat on his girlfriend and he always flirts with me but anouther problem his younger brother who is just a bit younger than me likes me but the brother I like (Matt) doesnt know that his brother (Jamie) likes me. But I really like Matt and want to date him but he has a girlfriend but he were thinking of dumping her because she were accusing him of not loving her enough and not caring about her enough which Matt does. And I really dont know what to tell him. I dont know if i should tell him I like him and see where it goes or just leave it and stay friends and flirt everytime we see each other and see what he decides to do with his girlfriend and wait.???

I really need help...
And the thing is I dused to like Jamie about a year ago but he didnt seem intrested in me so I left it. But I dont think Jamie wants the type of relationship I do.
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[Laura]

If you have your doubts about Jamie forget about him. Take him completely out of the picture. Let him know you don't think it will work right now.

As for Matt. If he has another love interest he should not be flirting with you. There is such a thing as a transition person. That is when someone leaves a relationship they seek another partner just to transition into being alone, or being available again. He may subconsiously be setting that up.

You need to ask yourself if you really want to be with a guy that will have you as a girlfriend and flirt secretly with others. If he is doing it to her....
He may not be such a great catch after all.

If you still want him, I would tell him the next time he flirts with you that as soon as he end this other relationship to look you up. But you better be darn sure he truely is flirting with you. If he is just being overly friendly and you say that to him, he may feel compelled to talk to his girlfriend about it. Not only will you feel silly if he is not flirting but you would have opened a "family size can of whop ars" on yourself.

Be cautious with love triangles!

['Angel']

I am being precautious I havent told eother brother bout the relationship with the other and Jamie knows I dont like him more than a friend but Matt I'm not sure bout because he is flirting with me and he knows he is because I always bring up stuff and see what he says to what happened and he says he really enjoyed himself and he had fun and stuff and yeh. And I have already been in a relationship a bit like this where I liked a guy and he had a girlfriend and he would always say he loves me and stuff and he cheated on his girlfriend with me and it were the worst mistake, then when he split up with his girlfriend 1 and a half years later he came crawling back to me and I still really liked him so I accepted him back into my arms and he were saying stuff like he still loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and wanted to grow grey and old with me and noone else that he just wanted me and he never stopped thinking bout me and then a week after that he got a girlfriend and dint tell me till he asked for my friends number because he thought she were good looking and he said he wouldnt do anything because he had a girlfriend and i wer like when did this happen??
And I really dont want to make that mistake with Matt because is a really nice guy and all but its just that I dont know what to do :/
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['Angel']

Also anouther thing is carn't just go to him I going until your split with your girlfriend if you really want me because we really good friends in the first place and he helps me out when I have problems. Like if this wernt bout him and his brother I would be talking to him about it. Like my break up with my last boyfriend he helped me through because my ex were going me a load of shit and stuff and yeh he helped me out. Where as all my other friends kinda took my exs side and stuck up for him slightly.
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[Laura]

It sounds like you really like him. Unfortunately he has a girl. As tempting as it might be, I would remove myself from it and fing someone completely out of that groop of people.

If he splits with her then go for it.

In the mean time you miy find someone else that you like even more.

[† Ivan †]

Laura has said it all =D, I can't add anything more than:
Hope you end up with someone that worths it =)

['Angel']

Yeh I am still kepping my options open but I'll wait and see while looking for someone else. But last night it were ocward because I went up town and to the pubs with my friend and her boyfriend and I saw Matt but he were with his group of friends and I dont know them so I stayed away from him and stayed with my friends. But he did keep glancing my way and gave me hug before he went, it were a really okward hug though because i were sat down and he hugged me from behind.
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