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[Precious]

I have never been one that can seperate emotions and sex but I hear a lot about "friends with benefits." Can you really seperate the two? How do you guys have sex with a woman and have no emotions involved? Are you secretly attracted/interested in her and just scared to tell her? Are you just using her? I know a lot of questions but I just curious.

[Rach]

I have never been one that can seperate emotions and sex but I hear a lot about "friends with benefits." Can you really seperate the two? How do you guys have sex with a woman and have no emotions involved? Are you secretly attracted/interested in her and just scared to tell her? Are you just using her? I know a lot of questions but I just curious.

I dont think it happens for more then a few months surely because 1 or the other always wants that bit more and so the whole thing changes.

[mandelbug]

Me personally, I cant be a Friend With a Benefit. Once I sleep with a girl I am emotionally attached to them. Some people can do it and see it as just sex though.

Its something that has been discussed over and over on here so have a look around and see what you can find in one of the in-depth topics

[Christopher]

I have never been one that can seperate emotions and sex but I hear a lot about "friends with benefits." Can you really seperate the two? How do you guys have sex with a woman and have no emotions involved? Are you secretly attracted/interested in her and just scared to tell her? Are you just using her? I know a lot of questions but I just curious.

Can you really seperate the two? Nothing is impossible, but i suspect after a long period of "Benefits" someone is going to eventually want more, its just the way human nature is.

How do you guys have sex with a woman and have no emotions involved?
Desensitize, In other words, they have done it so much its just a one time deal, at least thats how it is supposed to go, going back to the first question, maybe the first few times its just for fun, but it always evolves into something deeper eventually if that person is still around.

Are you secretly attracted/interested in her and just scared to tell her?
Attracted, yes(or else there would be no declaration of the forbidden dances), interested (Long term) maybe, it all depends on how the chemestry works out between the two, or three yadda yadda.

Are you just using her?
Announcing friends with benetits wouldnt exatly be "using her", this is something both sides agree to. Although i suspect alot can come into play, such as knowing the girl likes the guy and she would do anything to get his attention, thus guy takes advantage of that, and leaves at the first sign of attatchment.


Hopes this helps

[Christina]

I tried the "friends with benefits" thing and it didn't work for me. I think it depends on what you are looking for because I do believe it's possible to have a no-strings-attached kind of relationship if that's what you want. Personally, I felt bad sleeping with one guy while looking for someone at the same time; so I had to end it. But if you're not looking for a relationship, I don't see anything wrong with it.

[Kris]

I agree with you, ain't for me I commit to relationships and get jelous too easy, plus it aint 1965 any more. Friends are not the same once your intimate. True friends are just that, once there not I question the motives for keeping in touch.

[Alisa]

Becouse that is all men have on there mind. Why be just friends if they can get a little something something from you too. Hello why not use you for sex if you are willing too be used. And good luck with all the ### that go along with that sh**

[Vicki]

I have just come out of a long term relationship and I'm not ready for another one but I think friends with benifits would be ok as long as both parties are honest with each other if the feelings change then they need to discuss it sometimes it's not always the the man that wants friends with benifits.

[Kristal]

I'm a friend with benefits. There r no emotions that r so strong 2 change that. I'm happy the way it is and so is he. Yes of course emotions can get n the way but then I realize that there is never going 2 b more than that. I've learned 2 live like there is no love or even like n friends with benefits.

[Crafty]

Friends with benefits. What does it mean? As far as I am concerned it means using someone for sex and sex only. Stuff getting to know the person. Its lust only. What happens when the lust is gone? You get dumped and you fall hard. As you fall for their little sayings and lines that they use to get you to like them and then they use you. Basically friends with benefits means: A FWB is a friend with whom you may occasionally hook up or have sex but without the deeper commitment of relationship.