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[Phil]

To me lust is wanting so bad you have to have it. FWB is having a best friend your having sex with. I tried it and can't understand how anyone could do it. I get attached too easily. A couple guys I knew bragged like it was no big deal. I have also talked to women and same thing.

[Bear]

Ok personally I have been a friend with benefits many of many times it is quite easy to do I mean yeah some ppl say they get jealous or whatever but there is a understanding that nothing is going to happen and if one or the other gets a bf or gf then they decide to either break it off or keep going most of the time its broken off unless they arent getting any then it might start up again for instance here were and are my rules for friends with benefits: 1 no relationship other than sex is going to happen 2. If I or the other person flirts with someone its not while we are together 3. If either of us decide to date someone we tell the other person. 4 If you lie to me about being with someone I quit having sex with them ### they want to have sex we just ask if we want to hang out like it was any other day and if we have sex we have sex. 6. I never call them a booty call and vice versa. 7. never call for just sex unless we are both busy and just want to have sex. 8. If I or the other person is having sex with just each other then the other sex partner isnt brought around unless agreed. 9. once in bed feelings are not brought up unless its sexually. 10. if any feelings start to form it gets cut off and talked about and if one or the other dont want it to be just sex then it no longer continues. 11. always be 100% straight up and dont accept the rules unless you know you can handle it because I stand strong to my rules and even if it hurts feelings I make it well known I never break my rules. most of the time friends with benefits are formed by ppl who just got out of a relationship and just want to have fun or want to just have sex but no relationship. I know alot of ppl who read this are going to say I am a man whore or a dog or a user or something like that but all I really have to say to it is its my life and who ever I have sex's life and until you do it then you cant judge I am straight up about it when it starts and I dont take advantage of anyone If a girl is heart broken and wants to do it I wont I make sure they are not going to make any decision they are not going to regret later. and if they trick me then it gets cut off once feeling start to form. And yes I have had relationship form out of it but that was after it was cut off and stopped and thought about it for a month or more like I said I never break my rules. but you can say what you want I am satisfied with what I do and so is the girl(s) doing it with me. Its like the saying dont knock it until you try it.
Bear

[Smarti]

IMHO, friends with benefits is for the faint of heart when the benefits are of a sexual nature. It occurs when both parties need a booty call, ie, immediate sexual gratification, but have not the means to get a professional. It is a complicated issue to manage because one must remove feelings of attachment and how does one do this with one that we call a friend? Other feelings come into play, because any sexual encounter involves hormones, and hormonal changes are directly related to feelings. If a person becomes so de-sensitised as to NOT develop feelings of attachment, then one becomes disillusioned with all the emotions one needs to feel with the falling in love with someone. When you disconnect your feelings with the act of lovemaking, you become no better that animals who simply copulate to either scratch an itch or to pro-create. However, there is immediate self-gratification that is never enough because ultimately, we all are looking for that life partner. FWB just adds complications to that process in my opinion. I value my friends too much to even suggest such a selfish arrangement and I suspect they feel the same.

[Kelly]

Oh come on!! Please!! The FWB state is not for the emotional or faint of heart. Its simple and uncomplicated. SEX!! Call it a booty call or whatever else but its still just SEX. As to any rules of engagement that is up to the parties to sort out how they proceed. So my advice..if you can't take the heat don't go into that particular kitchen.

[James]

"How do you guys have sex with a woman and have no emotions involved?"
Usually I'm naked.


Seriously though it's hard for most people to do, we associate physicality with genuine affection, not to mention the act of kissing a lover... You never know who's gonna' take it what way.

I've tried the F@#$buddy thing once and it blew up... so I don't think it's truly possible for me, but for some others...apparently it's awesome.

[Ty]

i need a friends with benefits

[Optiron]

Everyone views sex differently. Some people are unable to distinguish between emotion and sex or able to separate the two. Some people never are able to associate the two.

I do not view sex as an act of love unless the people involved are in love. I have the Eddie Murphy theory going on from Raw. I don't make love...I fuck. I can fuck someone that I am in love with but I don't make love to anyone.

But at the same time not everyone can make that distinction. If you can not make that distinction then FWB is not for you. If you can make that distinction and you do not want to be bogged down with the burden of a relationship then FWB is a perfect fit.

[Slick3000]

LMAO....This is hilarious, and yes it can be done. Doesnt mean everytime/everyone is like that. Depends on you and what your looking for; it doenst have to be wrong or right...Just not right for everyone or everytime. It has its pros and cons

Public service annoucement "Please use protection". When on a FWB night

[charlestoungue]

I have never been one that can seperate emotions and sex but I hear a lot about "friends with benefits." Can you really seperate the two? How do you guys have sex with a woman and have no emotions involved? Are you secretly attracted/interested in her and just scared to tell her? Are you just using her? I know a lot of questions but I just curious.

you could break up with someone and still be friends with benefits..

[Laurie]

I've done that, and it ended very badly.