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[donderbos]

i like intelligent woman, i prefer them.
i dont care if they earn more money then me, driver a better car

if we connect, theres no problem.

I totally agree

[Caleeh]

A woman who is smart, confident and funny is a total turn on. A man who is the same is a total turn on.

Yet I know the occasional smart person (male or female) who is obnoxious, wants to be smarter than everyone else, and needs to prove his or her intelligence. That's not sexy; it drives people away, both in friendship and in relationships.

Exactly. And that, right there, is usually directly tied into the confidence vs. pride issue. A confident person has nothing to prove. A proud person feels the need to put themselves on a pedestal to make themselves feel a false sense of confidence, often disregarding anyone else in the process. I had that issue in my last relationship; my ex had a very hard time admitting being wrong, and I'm the kind of person who likes to learn from, share, laugh off and fix mistakes. Naturally, it stayed an issue from day one to both mid-breakups, all the way to my having to leave her a year later. Just something to think about.

[Louie]

... A confident person has nothing to prove. A proud person feels the need to put themselves on a pedestal to make themselves feel a false sense of confidence, often disregarding anyone else in the process.

Bingo!