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[jazzy]

I have been divorced for 6 years and am a single mother of a son with special needs, with little or zero contact with my ex. I have not had the time or the energy to do any dating - but that doesn't mean I haven't wanted to.

Does anyone have any suggestions to how I can "more forcefully" keep in mind that this friend is NOT my ex and that no one could be as crazy and unstable as he was?

[Roli]

Thats tough.......i tend to do the same thing and pre-judge......maybe just go out and have some fun but just keep an eye out for the warning signs.

[Bear]

ok I know I am young and everything but i have done the same thing and have had the same thing happen to me, I usually just think to myself that it is going to be different and that they arent going to be that way even if I think it is I think it isnt and since you havent seen each other yet then that is even better in a way because he cant see your facial expressions but you have to give yourself some practice and some time to make yourself actually believe that it isnt going to be the same as last time you have to convince yourself that it is different and it always helps to talk to other ppl so that way you can really realise that ppl are different and that everyone isnt the same. look at it this way there are ppl out there that do the same things as others but you have to realise that everyone is different and everyone deserves a chance as long as you like the qualities that they have and if he hasnt shown you any qualities that you dont like you should give him a chance and it just like biting your tongue you only think what you want so if you start thinkin them thoughts just think of something that gets your mind off of it.
Bear

[jazzy]

Thanks for the comments and suggestions guys.

I have another question... this guy, now that I am starting to remember him, has been sending me emails on FB and doesn't know how to use the "chat" feature. He's only had a pc for about 4 months and is not 'tech-savvy' in any way. (Plus, he initiated this reconnection a few weeks ago.)

I don't want to be "forward," but I really want to see this guy again and catch up, but he lives 2 hours away and I currently have no way of getting to where he is. He's said he would come here to see me - but has yet to say "when." (AND I'm aware I'm being overly impatient due to my high frustration level.)

My question is this.... is he truly interested in seeing me and understands I'm interested? Or is he completely dense and won't know anything until we're "in the same room together" or is he just not that serious?

Any suggestions? Comments? The frustration is killing me - plus he doesn't have a long-distance plan and no land-line, just cell phone.

Also...from a "guy" perspective, I know he's on FreeHookup and is sending flirts....does that mean anything (other than the obvious)? I personally don't think it does, but then, that's me and I'm not a guy. Plus, he joined after seeing my FB notice that I had joined - and I've seen his "date card" which states that his relationship status is "unknown."

[Jackie]

How do you filnd a man that is generally honest, caring, and lovable?

[Dino]

First of all you need to get drunk and just turn off that hyperactive brain of yours a bit. You are thinking WAAAAY too much

If he's sending ya flirts then that means he is interested in you, obviously. Maybe he is just shy or a bit insecure or just simply scared of rejection so he doesn't dare to make the real move (yet). Hint him... or hell, it's 21. century, just make the move yourself! He'll be positively surprised

And what ya got to lose? "No guts, no glory!"

[jazzy]

I know I'm thinking WAYYYY too much...the problem is that I don't drink!

And I would make the first move....I just have no way of getting to where he lives.

Thanks for the post.

[jazzy]

I guess I should clarify...the emails/messages I'm getting aren't from FreeHookup....they're from ###.

[Rinaldo]

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