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Abortion

Postby Julia on Sun Feb 22, 2009 10:03 pm

hi all,
i wonder to know...what if ur gf get pregnant? what will u do?
once my friend told her bf that she's pregnant, he asked her to drop the baby. The reason he gave is "no money". :cry:

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Re: Abortion

Postby Halit on Fri Mar 06, 2009 2:18 am

8-)

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Re: Abortion

Postby Laura on Mon Mar 09, 2009 2:28 pm

Okay. I'll go there. Sweetie, noone can tell anyone what to do in this situation. She needs to follow her heart and mind and make the decision that will be best for her.

It seems he does not want the child, so the idea of one big happy family is out. She unfortunately has the responsibility of another life due to the partnership. The sad part is when a child comes into play he does have the option to leave. (Thats not to say or imply they all do)

It is unfortunate they did not talk about that possibility before this happened. He is saying he can not afford a child. She needs to think about that in terms of child raising. He can be of no finantual support. Forcing that is not good for anyone.

If she feels she must carry the child and have it, there are two options-
1. Raise the child as a single parent
2. Find an agency that can place the child in another willing family

Or terminate the pregnancy.

None of the choices are nice. Tell her to give it alot of heart felt thought and do what is her best decision.

Good luck and God Bless.

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Re: Abortion

Postby Julia on Thu Mar 12, 2009 6:27 pm

thanks Laura for ur opinion. i appreciate much!
Share a good news with u, she will married soon. :)
After talked & arguement between them...everything ends up with a wedding.
He needs time to accept what is out of his plan.
Everyone know the life after married will be tough and harder for them, i wish they will go through these for their baby and future family.

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Re: Abortion

Postby Waisale on Fri Mar 20, 2009 8:05 am

Well, my advice is that abortion can be fatal,expensive and is a sinful act. Might as well keep the baby coz even though its an accident , it is a gift from God.

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Re: Abortion

Postby Julia on Tue Mar 24, 2009 9:26 pm

yes, a gift from God. Thanks Waisale :)

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Re: Abortion

Postby Jim on Sat Mar 28, 2009 11:19 am

-There is nothing wrong with abortion, why bring an unwanted child into the world.
-Yes adoption is an option, but I can't imagine carrying a baby for 9 months then giving it away?
-The real issue here is lack of birth control... if a woman really wants to be in control of her body she should be on the pill or use an IUD, or other options...
- Women should not depend on men for birth control.

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Re: Abortion

Postby Laura on Tue Mar 31, 2009 5:54 pm

My opinion again... It's not man bashing. Read the whole thing. Take it or leave it

That seems somewhat narrow minded of you. Why wouldnt the man be just a responsible for birth control?

You are both doing an act that the sole purpouse of was designed to produce a child. There is no mulligan for it feels good. If we could make it so that there was a 50 / 50 chance that a man would get pregnant or carry a child would you feel the same way?
You are after all sewing your seed.

Men and women engage in sexual activity because it is something intamite. Something only this couple can do that is exclusive to them. For those of you that dont see it that way, please read on any way.

It is a wonderful thing between a couple, it feels good, brings us closer, but only if it is mutual and willing.
In the end there is a risk. It is really ment to produce children, even though it is vital to a relationship. It is a risk that both should share. Which to me , is unfortunately not fair and is unfortunately not always the case.

With guys I read hear and see, you think a girl at some point should "give it up". Are you willing to give up the rest of your life for her? If things dont go as planned, (unplanned pregnancy) will you stick by her? Will you support the child?

The answer isnt always yes. So, unfortunately I have seen children without fathers, children that have fathers in jail because they wont help them live a reasonable life, women that persue and punish men for one intamite evening, children in adopted families wondering why their parents didnt love them, and girls crying every year on the date of their abortion.

Over sex? Not exactly. Get on the same page before you enter that zone. This isnt a mystery. We all know how it happens.

Male or female, dont jump into bed with anyone you dont have something going with. If you have something going this should be a part of the conversation if your looking at going there. Who will be responsible for the birth control? What will work best for you both? What if it happens any way? And it can. Further more dont lie about what you would do. (Men and women) It might change the relationship to tell the truth but it wont change the rest of your life entirely.

More times than not women are faced with making decisions about unborn children on their own. They didnt get that way alone.

It's both parties responsibility. In a perfect world.....

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Re: Abortion

Postby Jim on Tue Mar 31, 2009 9:38 pm

my answer is simple... men can't get pregnant. Women need to take control of their bodies, it is a form of empowerment. Women should not depend on men for birth control. If a woman is concerned about STD's - she should carry condoms, the man may not have any. Not all men are responsible & in the end it is the woman who pays the price.

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Re: Abortion

Postby Corinna on Wed Apr 01, 2009 6:12 am

Jim wrote:my answer is simple... men can't get pregnant. Women need to take control of their bodies, it is a form of empowerment. Women should not depend on men for birth control. If a woman is concerned about STD's - she should carry condoms, the man may not have any. Not all men are responsible & in the end it is the woman who pays the price.


Sometimes birth control fails, mate.

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