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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby JESSY. 8 days, 10 hours ago

hmmm
maybe ur personailty isnt wat chicks want???

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby Alan Alpha 8 days, 10 hours ago

nah theres hardly any girls near me that are single that im interested in all the rest are users/do drugs/1nighters/dont like smokers or drink to much

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby JESSY. 8 days, 10 hours ago

ohh i see
i hate feral drugo sluts with a passion :D
drugs are for peopls who have no personailty
and girls who just want one night stands are filthy!

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby Alan Alpha 8 days, 10 hours ago

JESSY. wrote:ohh i see
i hate feral drugo sluts with a passion :D
drugs are for peopls who have no personailty
and girls who just want one night stands are filthy!

agreed :)

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby Lukasx 8 days, 10 hours ago

Sadly, height is definitely a major factor in online dating. A lot of girls won't even look twice at a guy's profile if he isn't a certain minimum height (this varies depending on the girl, most girls just want a guy who's as tall as them in heels) and if there is a fairly even choice of guys in every other respect, they will likely go with the taller one by default.

The problem is that in an online environment, all a girl really has to go on (apart from your photo and whatever profile you've written) is your 'stats'. She'll cut through the masses of profiles out there with ruthless abandon, dispatching anyone who doesn't tick all her boxes - and height is one of those key boxes for many women. Even a girl who would definitely be attracted to you when meeting you in person and getting to know you as a whole person may not give you that opportunity when browsing your profile online.

For a scientific study, a guy even went so far as to create two identical online dating profiles on the same site, except with differing heights on each one, needless to say the taller profile received significantly more response than it's shorter equivalent.

Speaking as someone who is slightly below average height (I'm 5'6) I've experienced all different responses from girls. I've been out with taller girls upto about 5'10 who didn't care about being taller, I've been begrudgingly rejected by taller girls who found me attractive but just couldn't deal with the height difference, I've even been rejected by shorter girls who inexplicably prefer disproportionately taller men.

A friend of mine recommended that I exaggerate my height on my profile to 'get my foot in the door' (and according to girls I've dated, this happens a LOT!). His logic was that a minor fib would vastly increase the number of dates I could get, and then once I got face to face with the girls, I could let my other qualities compensate for this 'minor transgression' on the night.

While I imagine this could certainly work for me, I prefer to remain honest and upfront about myself (I'm perfectly comfortable with my height after all) and just be a 'what you see is what you get' guy. In any case, I think I'd get on better with a 'deeper' girl who is not consumed by these outdated superficial values, so why lie to attract the shallower ones? ;-D

I guess in my experience, the bottom line is if they are sufficiently attracted to your other qualities then some of them can look past the height thing, but it's definitely a significant factor for most of the women out these, and shorter men are excluded by the vast majority of girls who are just surfing profiles superficially and not prepared to look deeper.

The key thing to remember is that prejudice from 'anyone', male or female with regard to your height is a weakness of their judgement (and probably their character) and not something you should have to apologise for. ;-)

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby Bo 8 days, 8 hours ago

i dont know about others but honestly i rather be with shorter girls just feels right to me same height or shorter has always been good for me been with taller but not in a serious relationship or any thing like that it just never seems to work for me.

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby Alan Alpha 8 days, 8 hours ago

Bo wrote:i dont know about others but honestly i rather be with shorter girls just feels right to me same height or shorter has always been good for me been with taller but not in a serious relationship or any thing like that it just never seems to work for me.

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby joey 8 days, 8 hours ago

im 6'4'' ha i dont think i have anything to worry about

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby Lukasx 8 days, 7 hours ago

joey wrote:im 6'4'' ha i dont think i have anything to worry about


Actually, psychological research has shown that women instinctually invest a lot of expectations in a taller man to demonstrate the kind of charisma, dominance, success and leadership that are associated with taller men. As height does not naturally predispose a man to any of these qualities, it is not uncommon for women to be consistently disappointed and disillusioned by taller men who can't live up to these expectations.

Of course, if you in fact possess all these qualities too then you certainly have nothing to worry about! ;-)

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Re: why do women put an emphasis on height

Postby ~*K0in0philia*~ 8 days, 7 hours ago

hmmm.... from my point of view... I am 5'7 and I want to go out wear some heels cuz they go with my outfit.. and the guy shows up and I'm like 5 inches or so taller.. makes me feel like Zena the princess warrior or something..I don't think in some cases a woman wants to feel taller, bigger, and/or stronger etc,

I am not sure if its because of a "father issue" since I am taller then my dad. But in all honesty its not height in my case but if I can kick his butt he has got to go! Sooo0ooo...he can be short or tall and its ok if I look like Zena next to him ...he better be a protector, becuz I like feeling protected. So if I am screaming "save me" he can be 4'2 come and beat the bad guys away with his super cool midget kicks. :D

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