Re: Why do the nice guy are dumped?
by APCountryCovers on Thu Mar 19, 2009 7:33 am
Hi Valentin,
What is your story?... Have you been dumped...
To answer your question, it's possibly that the "NICE" guys are dumped because they're too nice, i.e. they do everything for the girl and don't give her space, when they do, they call or try and be nice even when they're away from her.
Now it's ok to be affectionate and let her know you care, but if you bend over backwards to try and please her it ain't gonna work buddy!!
You have to be yourself, have your own life, and then allow the girls into your world and keep it your world, if they like you they'll chase you... but don't ever, ever, ever chase them...
I'm no expert, but I know that it's called "Opposites Attract" for a reason, and if you make her centre of attention you spoil her fun in trying to make you the center of her attention... It has to be both ways, so just chill man, and if a girl seems to lose interest in you or drop you, back off from her, give her space and if she flee's always be sure that you have other female friends out there that sometimes fixes a girl who thinks she's got you, dumped you and broken your heart...
Also another reason girls dump the nice guys is they may not want to commit and a nice guy always moves towards more commitment... it's definitely safe for a guy or girl to go out with a partner "who isn't good for them" because it's never going to go anywhere...
But the nice guy, who has his act together, good job, great personality, basically very stable and a gentlemen, well that's marriage material and sometimes we sabotage a perfect scenario, because we don't think we're worth it... hence a girl thats dropped a nice guy may feel "insecure" or she may not want to settle, or she's just out for fun... hence she'll attract the bad boy to tickle her fancy and let the nice guy go!
Hope this makes sense?