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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby JD 6 days, 1 hour ago

You want to know why the nice guys dont get the hotties and are always stuck in the Friend Zone? Because you dont have the confidence it takes to simply walk up to the girl you see at the bar, or wherever and start talking to her. You think that you being chivalrous will win her heart, but it wont. The "jerks" are always getting the girls because they know how to be confident around women. By saying that women want nice guys, but always end up with the jerk is nothing more than an excuse for men. Try realizing that its you, not the girl, and not the jerk.

You can be her best friend forever, but if she doesnt like you in that manner she never will. You cant change her mind after all her failed relationships. You have to be proactive in the girl you are interested in instead of waiting for them to come to you. But if she doesnt like you, even after how nice you've been to them it wont change a damn thing.

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby Michael900 6 days, 1 hour ago

I am a nice guy, and I have been through it all! It all comes down to that girl that you want, who wants a bad ass! Basically just wants to Fuck! They are not ready for the nice guy's yet and most of them will never be because most people( men and women ) will do anything not to grow up! If you wait a good woman will come who is ready for a nice guy, until then they will cry on your shoulder and make you feel like shit unknowingly!

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby Neil 5 days, 13 hours ago

###rtinez wrote:I think it's all a load. Nice guys are nice guys because they know how to act. Bad boys do not. And when the chips have settled, you will be rewarded. Patience fellas. Patience.


Nicely wrote Mike!

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby Eric 5 days, 13 hours ago

amen Michael!!!!!!!!

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby ultraloveit 5 days, 12 hours ago

Nice guys sometimes send off the wrong signals too, like what previous people have written. I have made all the signs of obvious attraction, but no response from the other side. So I move on, only to find out months/years later that we could have dated =P

It's okay, one of them will bound to be "I'm sick of this bull shit, I'm going to just say something, and not give a rat's ass what she says back."

The way I look at it is, if I don't say something, I'll go the rest of my life wondering what could have happened. I'd rather have the rejection than that feeling of "what if."

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby Arto 5 days, 11 hours ago

I have been wondering the same things and came to similar conclusions.
I am the ultimate nice guy towards the ladies so I do have a LOT of female friends, who are just that. I am the shoulder to cry on when the latest jerk breaks their heart.

Absolute true story: 5 different women at different times and locations, have said to me "I wish all men were like you, you are the kind of man I have always dreamed of." I reply, "I'm available" she responds "sorry, not currently interested" What the HECK is wrong with me.

For me it's just so DAMN hard to be more "aggressive" or pushy or even TRY to be the "jerk". Which could work since many women wish to grab a jerk and then magically turn him into a nice guy...

I have lost all my hope. IF I am to many many women the ideal guy, who they are always looking for, yet the so nonchalantly pass me by and go for the assholes... maybe I SHOULD try that, it's just not IN me to be the jerk. So, I just stay true to who I am and die alone.

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby JD 5 days, 9 hours ago

Arto wrote:I have been wondering the same things and came to similar conclusions.
I am the ultimate nice guy towards the ladies so I do have a LOT of female friends, who are just that. I am the shoulder to cry on when the latest jerk breaks their heart.

Absolute true story: 5 different women at different times and locations, have said to me "I wish all men were like you, you are the kind of man I have always dreamed of." I reply, "I'm available" she responds "sorry, not currently interested" What the HECK is wrong with me.

For me it's just so DAMN hard to be more "aggressive" or pushy or even TRY to be the "jerk". Which could work since many women wish to grab a jerk and then magically turn him into a nice guy...

I have lost all my hope. IF I am to many many women the ideal guy, who they are always looking for, yet the so nonchalantly pass me by and go for the assholes... maybe I SHOULD try that, it's just not IN me to be the jerk. So, I just stay true to who I am and die alone.


On the inside you are her dream man, but on the outside you werent. Looks DO matter, and there MUST be an attraction in the first place. That's not to say you have to look like Hollywoods hottest star, but you need to be attractive in her eyes.

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby backinthesaddle 5 days, 6 hours ago

I think nice guys are eventually what a woman wants, even when she doesn't know it. If you weren't so far away. I'd like to give the nice guy all my attention. Bad boys are for bad girls. k

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby Cheryl 5 days, 4 hours ago

Eric wrote:amen Michael!!!!!!!!


Your experience may "color" your statement here, however, nice guys don't always finish last.
It's more that when they do finish, (find what they are looking for), they cease complaining! Always and never no longer apply...
Your profile implies that you are a nice man, you are an attractive man...hang in there, timing is everything!

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Re: why do nice guys always finish last

Postby Cheryl 5 days, 4 hours ago

JD wrote:You want to know why the nice guys dont get the hotties and are always stuck in the Friend Zone? Because you dont have the confidence it takes to simply walk up to the girl you see at the bar, or wherever and start talking to her. You think that you being chivalrous will win her heart, but it wont. The "jerks" are always getting the girls because they know how to be confident around women. By saying that women want nice guys, but always end up with the jerk is nothing more than an excuse for men. Try realizing that its you, not the girl, and not the jerk.

You can be her best friend forever, but if she doesnt like you in that manner she never will. You cant change her mind after all her failed relationships. You have to be proactive in the girl you are interested in instead of waiting for them to come to you. But if she doesnt like you, even after how nice you've been to them it wont change a damn thing.


So young...yet so wise!

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