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[Lena]

mhmmm......interesting reading. But in my case, I really thought I had met the kindest, nicest gentleman you could imagine. And that wasn't only my opinion, everybody (his/mine friends, collegues, family etc) thought the same: What an incredibly honest, caring man.
Too bad he turned into a monster behind shut doors.
I thought evil like that mostly existed in books and movies.
I couldn't have been more wrong......
Now, a year after, I'm on the mend, getting back to my old (strong) self, not being too jumpy anymore and feeling slightly optimistic as I realise that not all men are out to hurt me , there are still a few good ones out there. Realising that maybe, maybe one day I will meet my match.
Good Luck everyone : )
Lena

[~*Gotta Love Me*~]

Most women go for the bad boy type because its exciting and makes them feel young and yes girls think they can bend the bad boys to the way they want them. i used to be a bad girl and dated bad boys and it was fun while it lasted till i grew up and realized those bad boys werent really going any where in life!

With a bad boy you know what your getting your self into, alot ofthe good guy's change and not always for the best!

[James7365]

Not sure why. I have never treated one bad but then I have only had 1 woman in my life.

[Amy]

i guess it's exciting & challenging. but at the end of the day i believe it's something all us women have to go through to make us stronger. plus the bad ones are usually the better looking ones which ooze confidence.

[Ian]

i guess it's exciting & challenging. but at the end of the day i believe it's something all us women have to go through to make us stronger. plus the bad ones are usually the better looking ones which ooze confidence.

I'm not a bad guy

[Andy]

because the nice guy dont know it but she is looking at him as a pussy, kissing her ass. she looses respect for him thats all sinple, she wants a real MAN! that knows how to be a man,

[The Great Pretender]

I think its just mainly that everyone seems to go after what they seemingly can't have. I would imagine most girls value certain qualities of a guy so greatly that they are willing to take other really bad qualities in return.. Its hard to say, it might also be the fact that a "bad boy" is more exciting, less predictable, and not as boring.

[Jeremy]

I think "girls" go after bad boys, and women go after the right guys. In some cases these girls think they can change the man and keep that fun-side about him.
Issue is, these bad-boys aren't fun. They're arrogant and ignore you, they are unpredictable because they don't have you in mind when they diecide to do something.

The good guys usually care about what effects you, and may be boring at times, but maybe the woman should contribute to the relationship a little more. Want to be fun? Good guys like Naughty girls.. so be kinky and naughty, especially on a rainy day, or a friday night when nothing's planned..

fricken ay.
hope that helps.

[Adrian]

Girls like that have no self respect. It probably comes from their upbringing or from peer pressure from their girlie mates. It's not cool to like a good guy, more acceptable from the in-crowd to go for the leather jacket type. As I've found out, being a nice guy gets you the "You're a smashing guy with a brilliant personality and when you find someone she'll be a very lucky girl....but!" routine.

On the subject raised earlier about dates, how much rejection and failure can you take before you just get fed up with the whole dating game?. My view now is that it's their loss. If a girl does'nt want to take the time to get to know me, then she simply is'nt worth my time!

[Morning]

Love the last statement Adrian! If someone doesn't want to take the time to know you, why the hell let it bother you at all?

As for the question, I do think most girls that are in abusive or just plain bad relationships, it's because they just don't care about themselves or don't have much pride. Though the bad boy routine is pretty cliche and old now, girls still try to go for the guy because they usually do just have a very predatory aura. Some girls like it. I personally like predatory aura's from men but I also like respect, understanding, and adaptability.