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When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby Colin 4 days, 5 hours ago

Ok, you 'meet' someone across the country, and you're hitting it off pretty well online. You chat about all kinds of stuff... things are going good.
You see girls complaining all of the time about guys just wanting to talk about sex, and you want to avoid giving that impression.

But...

Talking about sex is something that guys definitely like to do, and if you're exploring the possibility of a relationship then it's a topic you really might want to talk about.

So my question is, when is the right time to bring that up? And how would a guy go about doing that without sounding like a player?

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby JT 3 days, 13 hours ago

Hmm. That's a difficult one to answer. For me, talking about sex on the internet is just plain tacky. Sorry, but unless I know the guy and have already met him in person - I don't usually discuss sex.

The simple fact is that everyone has that "physical attraction" gene in their genetic makeup. A picture just doesn't do it - until you meet in person, you aren't going to know whether or not the chemistry online is made up of fantasy or the "real thing" until you see them for the first time.

Besides... how often do you actually "talk" about sex when you date someone? In all likelihood, you don't, cuz in person you already "know" if you or they are interested because of the chemistry you feel while you're together.

I honestly don't think you can "bring it up" online EVER. First impressions count and talking about sex online brings up all kinds of even more complex issues - a definite no-no until AFTER you've met in person.

That's just my opinion... you can wait for another response if you like. :)

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby Redcapote 3 days, 11 hours ago

I know you'd like to get things to that point, but even as a guy I have to say unless she's bringing it up first, you're only loading ammo into a revolver pointed at your foot.

In other words, you're about to wish you just didn't. :D



Women are just wired emotionally different than we are. Though you may get the satisfaction of knowing the woman would sleep with you if all goes well in the conversation, you may have just lost the mystique of her being able to meet you and act on those things she thought but couldn't talk about.

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby ~*K0in0philia*~ 3 days, 10 hours ago

Online is different then in person and some people rather keep the sexual thing on hold until you get to know eachother..even if you haven't met. Sometimes chemistry works even if only online. Web cams sometimes help with seeing the physical person and finding chemistry..and I dont mean sex cam ok... but web cams do help you find out if the person is really who they say they are and the body language is basically the same on cam as in person. The only problem is the physical touching or huging and such isnt there.. I know sometimes even smells help. But you have to make due with what you have. Right?

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby Justin Petrick 3 days, 9 hours ago

I usually bring it up because it is an important issue to me, usually the 2nd or 3rd date. I enjoy intimacy and want someone with the same libido as I do, so I will bring it up in a careful, respectable manner..such as "So, when you do indeed find that someone, how many times per week is ideal for having sex?" It has always been received well and I have gotten my answer. And if they as why, I explain it to them.

Peace.

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby Pretty Boy Syrome 3 days, 6 hours ago

Well you dont wanna {WAIT} to long cause then it could be awkward or you could have entered the { FRIEND ZONE} and she might not think of you in a sexual way I begin to talk about sex {umm} dependin on when we met if I meet a chick {Saturday} I would begin to spark a sex convsersation around {TUESDAY} maybe {WENDSDAY} just to see whats she interested in if she finds me hot and if she likes my {BOD} lol I wouldnt dive into anything heavy like whats your response to { Cumin on someones Face } that type of shit might be to {EXTREME} unless she really open and or is a {FREAK} I would open the sex topic wit {WHAT TURNS U ON} {FAVORTIE FOURPLAY ACTIVITY} shit like that and gradually get into if she into { Cleveland Steamer} or{State Chili Dog} and even the {Rusty Trombone}

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby good4u 2 days, 18 hours ago

Those that said it is crude to talk to a lady on line about sex is correct. If a guy started to do that to me and we had no established personal real time relationship. You would be considered a pervert. Plain and simple to a proper lady. Get over it, it is just should not be done if seeing this person in real time is not done first.

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby Michael 2 days, 15 hours ago

I think some things is ok to talk and some things is not.

Say you always want to do sex in a bath or shower. Should be ok.

Say you want to have sex with two man and doing double entry or whatever. Or I want to have sex tied up in bed. Unacceptable.

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby Justin Petrick 2 days, 13 hours ago

I think being tied up is cool.

Peace.

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Re: When is it cool to talk about sex?

Postby JT 1 day, 20 hours ago

Justin Petrick wrote:I think being tied up is cool.

Peace.

:lol::lol::lol::lol:

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