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[DUsTiN]

first off this is hard to do but I just wanna know why I can't get a good honest and attractive woman. Is because I am ugly or something....am I not an attractive guy? I don't know that I am and need to be re assured of my self.. I have low self esteem for one so thats not helping me any but I feel like I'm just stuck and am not going anywhere in the dating area right now.....don't know why either......any advice ladies?

Thanks,
Dustin

[Ben]

Maybe lower your standards?
I can't comment on your looks as its not really appropriate.

I've found that if I go through a really low point and have no self confidence, I look for girls that I'm less attracted to. It sounds really harsh I guess, but it will give you a boost of confidence (and hopefully them as well). You may end up really liking this girl as well.

[DUsTiN]

Now that I think about it Ben its not really appropriate to comment on that but yea, I can see where you could have a right point there by saying "lower the standards a little bit" and yea that could be taking harshly by some people, to me I guess its just all about how you take it. I took it like you probably ment it, which was I thought not in a harsh type of way......thanks for your input though. I really don't have that many problems meeting women that I think are very attractive and respond well with them and have a great time with them but I have been in a Really long Relationship and I just got out of it not too long ago so I am sort of just jumping back in the game if you know what I'm saying...... I just feel used when I meet someone that may wanna be with me and treat me right.....I have trust issues which I think stems back from my last relationship which ended in a divorce so maybe you understand a little more of where I'm coming from now.....Hope so anyways but yes Ben thanks again for your reply.

Dustin

[Chris]

I agree wholeheartedly with Ben's post.

[Laura]

Hey Chris,

Just go slow in the relationships. It can be hard to do. If something does not sit well with you in a new adventure, ask yourself if this is because of your old baggage or if this just something that wont sit well with you.

We all feel edgy and insecure at times. Keep dating all different women. You will eventually start to widdle out what you are looking for.