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I'm amazed by the number of female posts that say they are "not interested in players". What exactly does that mean? Is is some secret female code?

I'm being a little facetious here because I certainly understand that women don't want a guy that is going to be screwing anything wearing a skirt. Any intelligent man understands that and it doesn't need to be explicitly stated .

However, you must also realize that you are dealing with an imperfect sex called men! Women know that men think about sex 24/7 and that they are not replying to your personal ad because they are dying to join you at starbucks for a coffee and chat. Nothing wrong with coffee and a chat, but a thousand sexual thoughts will be swirling in the man's head during that chat.

And honestly, how does one actually filter "players" on the internet? Just because you write in your ad that you are "not interested in players", do you think that will stop the "players" from contacting you?

Just makes me scratch my head and wonder...

I welcome your thoughts!

[Mattie]

It's not just about sex. Players lie, a lot. Of course guys think about sex that often. So do some of us women. That's expected. However, he's not a player just because he thinks about it. He's a player because he's a liar, a user, a low-life who will cheat and manipulate to get money, sex, material things, a place to stay.

No, it won't weed them all out. However, it will some because it says that we're already on guard and watching for it. I can usually tell within a short amount of time (sometimes just meeting once) whether or not he's a liar and user. Easier for them to lie to me online then in person. As soon as I detect a lie or an inconsistency ( you know, like he says "well I was at so-and-so's house" then says he was somewhere else for that same time), he's gone. If their too smooth online, that's a hint. Some men think if they turn on the charm, that will cover up their lies. Doesn't work with me. I won't talk to them for long. I've met all kinds of men in my life and I can spot the players pretty quick.

[John]

It's not just about sex. Players lie, a lot. Of course guys think about sex that often. So do some of us women. That's expected. However, he's not a player just because he thinks about it. He's a player because he's a liar, a user, a low-life who will cheat and manipulate to get money, sex, material things, a place to stay.

No, it won't weed them all out. However, it will some because it says that we're already on guard and watching for it. I can usually tell within a short amount of time (sometimes just meeting once) whether or not he's a liar and user. Easier for them to lie to me online then in person. As soon as I detect a lie or an inconsistency ( you know, like he says "well I was at so-and-so's house" then says he was somewhere else for that same time), he's gone. If their too smooth online, that's a hint. Some men think if they turn on the charm, that will cover up their lies. Doesn't work with me. I won't talk to them for long. I've met all kinds of men in my life and I can spot the players pretty quick.

"applauding wildly" it's so nice watching a smart woman talk sense! It gives me hope as one of the good guys out there, thank you!