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[Rissa]

I don't need to feel loved to have sex. Most of the time when I do have sex, I attach way too much importance to it. But I'm rediculous, so yeah.

Mad LOLZ.

[seven]

Here is my take on love and sex. See some call me a man whore, but i have been learning while having all the sex that i have had. I have noted that sex in the sense of sex is a completely natural thing. Humans have sex naturally to keep the ballance of chemicles in thier bodies. thats why people can become "sexually frustrated" and why some people are nyphos. unbalanced hormones. but love is a different chemicle all together. love is what makes someone feel comfortable enough to open up to someone else. men and womens chemicle make up is completely different. thats why you have the false sense that men need sex to feel love and women need love to have sex.

[Bryan]

[seven]

exactly what i am saying. sex is just that, sex. in the natural sense it is intended for it is for reproduction so a species can survive. but due to some unknown reason to man, the human race developed feelings. this, in turn, messed up the whole "survival of the fittest" fact how all other species continue existance. because of these feelings, such as "love", the human race has sick, ugly, and damn right unintellegent people living now. also because of these feelings we have difficulty understanding the difference of love and lust. loving and fucking. sex is always sex, even if you love the person. you can only be in love with one person at a time. you can lust for many.

[Rahab]

women need love to do sex, but men need sex to be shown lovw

[Caleeh]

Men don't need sex to be shown love. It's like others ave pointed out: sex is sex. The very, VERY simple truth is - and this can vary to extremities for different guys - our bodies want sex. We want it, love or no love. Sex is its own separate need for us. We don't have a need to make it anything more. It's unbelievably better when it does mean something emotionally, but so is cake or a '69 Mustang Mach 1. Regardless of what we want romantically, the need to indulge in our natural sexual needs isn't going to magically go away until we can't get it up anymore. Simple as that. Sex =/= love for us.

From what I've seen, the fact that the MAJORITY of women need love in order to have sex seems to be more of a pride issue resulting from a combination of social conditioning and simple self-defense. Typically, if a women does not want sex outside of a meaningful relationship, it's because she feels she is being taken advantage of otherwise, and should feel ashamed for it. The main source of this idea is actually from us guys: namely, fathers. Let's face it, our natural weir sense of territoriality doesn't allow us to permit any other guy so much as looking at our little girls funny. We, mothers, and, as a result, society in general, push the idea of "sex for the sake of sex" as being some shameful act that no girl should ever succumb to as a protective measure for our girls, and women grow up with that mentality.

Not that it isn't without good cause. Women have to deal with the risk of pregnancy, which really shouldn't be taken lightly, and during puberty it may not necessarily be something they will take seriously without constant pressure from everyone to not have sex and be a "slut" or "whore" or some such "used and abused" persona. On top of that, women really are emotional creatures, and despite the fact that most of us guys can totally handle sex with or without romantic connotations, women can find this lack of attachment absolutely devastating and permanently scarring, ESPECIALLY if she also ends up having to face consequences like pregnancy or STDs, or even simple abandonment by her peers. Serious business.

So, naturally, women have all of these things in mind when they think of sex. Sex is something risky, that they obviously will have a hard time giving up to someone they do not trust. And oh, btw, it hurts for them. Almost every time, with very few exceptions. Seriously. And they don't have male hormones or genitalia, so they're not getting random moments of horniness, and they don't have any "obvious" signs of an orgasm, so some of them don't even know if how to tell if they're climaxing when they engage in sexual behavior, and as a result never know just how good it might be.

So yeah, a great deal of women are more than content with leaving sex as something to only give up to whomever they trust with their love. And we're left to stroke ourselves until we earn it. That's just the way it is.

[Ian]

Men don't need sex to be shown love. It's like others ave pointed out: sex is sex. The very, VERY simple truth is - and this can vary to extremities for different guys - our bodies want sex. We want it, love or no love. Sex is its own separate need for us. We don't have a need to make it anything more. It's unbelievably better when it does mean something emotionally, but so is cake or a '69 Mustang Mach 1. Regardless of what we want romantically, the need to indulge in our natural sexual needs isn't going to magically go away until we can't get it up anymore. Simple as that. Sex =/= love for us.

From what I've seen, the fact that the MAJORITY of women need love in order to have sex seems to be more of a pride issue resulting from a combination of social conditioning and simple self-defense. Typically, if a women does not want sex outside of a meaningful relationship, it's because she feels she is being taken advantage of otherwise, and should feel ashamed for it. The main source of this idea is actually from us guys: namely, fathers. Let's face it, our natural weir sense of territoriality doesn't allow us to permit any other guy so much as looking at our little girls funny. We, mothers, and, as a result, society in general, push the idea of "sex for the sake of sex" as being some shameful act that no girl should ever succumb to as a protective measure for our girls, and women grow up with that mentality.

Not that it isn't without good cause. Women have to deal with the risk of pregnancy, which really shouldn't be taken lightly, and during puberty it may not necessarily be something they will take seriously without constant pressure from everyone to not have sex and be a "slut" or "whore" or some such "used and abused" persona. On top of that, women really are emotional creatures, and despite the fact that most of us guys can totally handle sex with or without romantic connotations, women can find this lack of attachment absolutely devastating and permanently scarring, ESPECIALLY if she also ends up having to face consequences like pregnancy or STDs, or even simple abandonment by her peers. Serious business.

So, naturally, women have all of these things in mind when they think of sex. Sex is something risky, that they obviously will have a hard time giving up to someone they do not trust. And oh, btw, it hurts for them. Almost every time, with very few exceptions. Seriously. And they don't have male hormones or genitalia, so they're not getting random moments of horniness, and they don't have any "obvious" signs of an orgasm, so some of them don't even know if how to tell if they're climaxing when they engage in sexual behavior, and as a result never know just how good it might be.

So yeah, a great deal of women are more than content with leaving sex as something to only give up to whomever they trust with their love. And we're left to stroke ourselves until we earn it. That's just the way it is.

I think Caleeh has hit the nail on the head here! Well said

[donderbos]

I don't need to feel loved to have sex. Most of the time when I do have sex, I attach way too much importance to it. But I'm rediculous, so yeah.

Maybe u must call that sex, making love then hmmm

[ömer]

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