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[Tatyana]

Is there anyone who would give advice and just help me clear my head and deal with this.

[Pretty Woman]

It is very simple. Search for a lesbian or bisexual woman, make friendship with her, then have fun with each other and enjoy it. The question is how did you discover that you are lesbian?

[Bex]

perhaps you could try talking to people on lesbian chat sites??
because sometimes it may help to talk to others in the same situation as you? or people you have come through the same thing

[Tatyana]

Thanks girls. I really appreciate the posts. Listen, the problem here is that how does one deal with your family and current friends whose VERY MUCH against lesbians?

[Lauren]

Once you have accepted this realisation, you will be happy with yourself, people will see a change in you, it will come naturally when the time is right. If you feel that you dont want to tell them just yet, that is your personal choice, there is nothing wrong with that either.
You need to be freinds with woman like you, people who have had experience they can share with you.
You need to find a special person to help you in this journey, a really good freind who accepts you, someone who can support you when you feel down, it is key to feeling better about who you are.
If people cant accept you for who you are, you dont need them.

[Paul]

life is life and no matter what or whom we are makes no differance! as long as we can feel at ease with how we feel about ourselves x good luck

[justme]

People deal with the 'coming out' in different ways & those who have been bought up with strong homophobic views will be very hard to win over. Just take it all slow & remember that as much as your adjusting to the situation, so are they!
I came 'out' as a lesbian at 23 after being straight, lol, then again at 29 i re 'came out' as bisexual. I also have a lesbian sister (who came out after me) & a gay nephew & lots of friends who r gay/les/bi.
There are so many people out there going through the same things as yourself. If you look in your local area, there are probably social groups, check newspapers & community notices etc.

Also, now you have accepted yourself, your gaydar will prob start working, lol...u will start to see gay people everywhere! They say it's 1 in 10.... 1 in every 10 people identifies as GBLT (gay,bisexual,lesbian,transgender).

Congratulations & best of luck to you.

[Christie]

Is there anyone who would give advice and just help me clear my head and deal with this.

I haven't been out of the closet long myself. From my personal experience,it wasn't easy to know where to go from there. The best advice I can give is listen to your heart,but let your head rule.

[Tatyana]

Oh my gosh, you guys are the best. Thank you so much for all your support and advise. I will keep you all posted when my GAYDAR, hehe : ), starts working!!