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i am not sure how to start conversations with women
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i am not sure how to start conversations with women
i am very shy and when i try to talk to women i no what i want to say but i'm always afraid of what might come out. i have a problem with just comin out and saying something. somebody please try to help me?
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george - Posts: 1
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Re: i am not sure how to start conversations with women
I used to be extremely shy and would not talk to others...which caused me my own problems in high school. I would never look anyone in the eye and was afraid that I would say the wrong thing too, and might bore them. I would see ppl with all of their friends laughing, having fun, etc. and I would wish for that bond, to be a part of something. I considered myself an outcast.
Till one day a guy I just met at the time (my friend now) asked me why I rarely said anything, why am I so shy. My response was "I don't know" (defence mechanism), after that he pushed me to be open to others that it is not as bad as it seems and he was right. I began to talk to others and they weren't bored, they like the fact that I wasn't no-talking to them. Every time my friend would see me he would say "don't be so shy" and we'd laugh, he still tells me that to this day, and it helps. Persistence pays off in the end try not to be afraid to get out there and talk to others, because you miss out-I did. I wished I would've been as social as I am now.
"Don't be so shy"
Till one day a guy I just met at the time (my friend now) asked me why I rarely said anything, why am I so shy. My response was "I don't know" (defence mechanism), after that he pushed me to be open to others that it is not as bad as it seems and he was right. I began to talk to others and they weren't bored, they like the fact that I wasn't no-talking to them. Every time my friend would see me he would say "don't be so shy" and we'd laugh, he still tells me that to this day, and it helps. Persistence pays off in the end try not to be afraid to get out there and talk to others, because you miss out-I did. I wished I would've been as social as I am now.
"Don't be so shy"

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Jocelynne - Posts: 375
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Hi! My name is george

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shane - Posts: 1205
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just be yourself say hello and introduce yourself and if she is interested the conversation will come natually i'm a shy person myself and very rarely talk to men first but if i am approached and he seems nice and genuine then the shyness goes away.
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Tracy - Posts: 6
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shane wrote:Hi! My name is george![]()
Oh shit! You did it! You solved the mystery!
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Colin - Posts: 306
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shane wrote:Hi! My name is george![]()

You're very funny !
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Corentin - Posts: 1255
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Give them a compliment. Usually I compliment them on what they are wearing or their accessorie, such as shoes or belt or top. It always lights up their face. Don't give them one about their looks, cause if you have decent taste whatsoever they are expecting it or get it all the time. You have to be original, different.
Peace.
Peace.
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Justin Petrick - Posts: 38
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Do you have problems talking to just girls or girls and guys?
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Misty - Posts: 403
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You know, sometimes something completely unexpected does the best job of breaking the ice, for you and for her.
Walk up to her, shake her hand, and confidently introduce yourself... "Hi, I'm Manny the Martian. What's your favorite flavor of bowling ball?"
Bet she hasn't heard that one. If you give her your best smile, she'll know you're just trying to be humorous, and it will settle any sexual tension that may have been created while you two lovebirds were glancing at each other.
Or, "If I wasn't gay, I'd do things to you that shouldn't be discussed." Of course, this just allows you to get your foot in the door, and ultimately she'll gladly find out that you're not gay. Not gay at all.
Walk up to her, shake her hand, and confidently introduce yourself... "Hi, I'm Manny the Martian. What's your favorite flavor of bowling ball?"
Bet she hasn't heard that one. If you give her your best smile, she'll know you're just trying to be humorous, and it will settle any sexual tension that may have been created while you two lovebirds were glancing at each other.
Or, "If I wasn't gay, I'd do things to you that shouldn't be discussed." Of course, this just allows you to get your foot in the door, and ultimately she'll gladly find out that you're not gay. Not gay at all.

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Redcapote - Posts: 93
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The { LAST } thing u wanna do is take advice from a girl on how to approach a girl cause the {Chick} givin you advice aint givin you a chance to get on wit {HER} but I can help you wit your {MINOR} problem being shy and not outgoing is like a {FEAR} of rejection your already worked up about wantin to say somethin and thinkin through what might happen what could happen if your lookin at your best if you approach her will she like u { FIRST } Calm down gather yourself and what made u wanna talk to her in the first place{ SECOND } Scope out your surroundings make sure she isnt to involved wit her friends or if her Boyfriend ventured off and is on his way back{THREE} Be confident in yourself be able to accept rejection { It Happens }stay calm walk slowly and introduce yourself 3 steps before your face 2 face wit her {FOURTH} Keep the conversation short tell her {WHY} u approached her {Cause the jeans she wearin is tight then a muthfucka} or you found her attractive and wanted to exchange numbers or just give her {YOURS} to maybe hang out sometime{FIFTH} Get the fuck outta dodge dont hang around to long {UNLESS} she ask you to keep her company for a lil{BUT} really after the introduction and small 2-3 minute conversation go on about your day and whatever you was doin {DONT} make the shit AWKWARD {by any means} and continue to {BUILD CONFIDECE} in your self become witty and funny and say somethin {INTERESTIN} I promise you {SUCCESS}
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