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[Joaquim Santos]

So ladies, got a question for ya..

What do you usually do with a shy guy? If you like him offcourse.. Do you try to overcome his shyness, or if he doesnt overcome his shyness do you left him behind?

I'm not shy most times, but when i find a girl that i have some chemistry with at the moment, sometimes i go shy and dont know what to say and the talk doesnt flow and its forced.. And that shows most of the time, the girl notices that..
If i get to know the persorn i tend to overcome shyness but most girls dont wait long enought or i dont have the patience at the time for ...

If i drink a little or whatever the shyness tend to dissipate, but the thing is... i dont like drinking that much... used to, and had my share of it (quite large actually..)! So i tend not to use alchool for overcoming shyness..

Its frustrating when your not a shy guy to most people and when you find a girl you like you tend to become shy at the moment... frustrating indeed.. but thank God it doesnt happen all the times..

How do you deal with shy guys?

[Elle]

Hey Joaquim,

I have exactly the same problem. Can talk to a guy fine if there's no chemistry, but when there is I turn into a bumbling idiot! All I can say is keep at it. This is where the internet is great, cos you can get to know someone and build up some kind of rappor which should (in theory) make things go more smoothly when you meet.

If the women you meet aren't patient enough, then they're not the right ones for you Just keep trying, you'll get there in the end x

[Davoo]

True. Relationshp is built overtime. Shyness after a while is gradually overcome if the other party is interested in the friendship, encouragement and constant interactions helps as antidote. I'm a shy guy, but now love making friends. Basically, interest counts in this regard.

[Sali]

Shy Cute Guys, I dated this guy once, he was so shy he would do exactly what you are doing using a few drinks to get comfortable, don't do that ! be yourself ,if you are a shy guy the right girl will come along and you'll know , I used to be very shy, now I flirt !! it helps me , hang in there Joaquim,

[Joaquim Santos]

Thanks all for the replys... really..

Elle, i do think the internet is perfect for "breaking the ice" or something like that, but i'm kinda new to using it as a soulmate finder or whatever.. Most sites i visited in the past or were payed ones (like zoost..) or didnt have any girls in my area... To bad your from the UK and i'm from Portugal, you seem like a nice girl ..

Davoo, yeah i believe in that too, but i also believe that most girls are more interested in one-night-stands nowadays... Not what i am looking for, but it has hapenned... and it only reminds me that its not that that i need, its not just sex, i need a partner for the moments of life, the good ones and the bad ones..

Sally, thanks, i really think i shouldnt use any booze or anything like that, i should deal with that. and with alchool i tend to get really depressive at the end of the night or whatever part of the day i drink..

Thank you all..

[|-|Nick|-|]

Hey Joaquim,

I have exactly the same problem. Can talk to a guy fine if there's no chemistry, but when there is I turn into a bumbling idiot! All I can say is keep at it. This is where the internet is great, cos you can get to know someone and build up some kind of rappor which should (in theory) make things go more smoothly when you meet.

If the women you meet aren't patient enough, then they're not the right ones for you Just keep trying, you'll get there in the end x

Yes I'm like that myself. But when I begin a conversation with somebody I like I cant think of anything to say hahah but I'm alright with ladies I'm not into.

[Gave up]

I wonder if being upfront and explaining this small problem to the other person at the time would be the proper thing to do (anyone want to add their thoughts?) ...never tried it myself and yes I too fall in this category, but to overcome any 'mental' problem I believe it has to be dealt with and not ignored or you'll be dealing with it forever.

[Bex]

i would have to say im the oppisite im very bubbly and dn't have any problems talking to people well talking at any time but if i met a shy guy and liked him id do little things when getting to know him like meet him by myself for the first few times then introduce him to my friends so he'd feel more comftable around me and hopfully not so awkward..

but because i am a bubly out going person i wouldn't go for a ultra shy guy but there are many shy chicks out there aswell so its a matter of finding people you feel comftable around

you could also try meeting women through your friends so you can go out in groups and mst people are less shy around there freinds so itd help break the ice just an idea tho