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[Samuel]

what does a guy really need to land the woman of his dreams...funny smart sexy compasionate endearing understanding strong independant LOYAL and most of all humble.....whats my chances at finding that?

[Samuel]

why is everyone reading no one responding.....another question if u start seeing someone and they r way into u than u r them but u still like them but dont think u will feel as strong as they do when do u throw in the towel...its not like u dont like the person the chemistry just isnt that strong...does chemistry grow?

[Mattie]

Chemistry can grow, yes. It's up to you when to decide it won't go any further. If you know that person feels stronger than you do and you've decided it won't go any further for you, then you need to be honest. It's not fair to string that person along and have her hope it'll grow or is something it isn't. That's like keeping someone around merely because there's nothing else around at that moment. Wrong thing to do. Mind games are hurtful. Been on the receiving end of that one.

As for 'rating' you, I don't do that. The descriptive words you listed, well, some can have various meanings such as 'smart', 'strong', and 'independant'. Honestly, looks never impress me so I don't even think in those terms. Besides, I don't live in your area and I'm probably not the type of woman you want 'rating' you anyway :p

Your chances are probably as good as the average person's.

[Samuel]

c heres the thing i really like her... her personality everything...im just not as physically attracted to her as i am other women

[Mattie]

So she's a great person and you're really attracted to that but doesn't look how you think she should? Or is it that what you feel is just strong friendship? That's what you have to decide.

Sex is mostly a mind thing. I've dated the so-called Adonis and in the end not found them that physically appealing because of who they were. Yet, I've date the ones that aren't what most would think of as conventionally attractive and the physical chemistry was most definitely there because he was a great guy. Could it be that with you? That, even though you might have a big crush, there's just not that romantic spark needed to push it into something more that would create the physical attraction?

[Samuel]

ya but she is like really into it she told me shes falling in love with me and im no where near that phase

[Mattie]

then you're going to have to be honest. It's not fair to be otherwise. You can tell her that you can date for a bit and see if it happens and make no promises, see how it goes. Or, if you know it will never turn into love then you'll have to let her go so she's free to find someone who will love her back.