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[Lady1st]

As I have looked thru some of the questions, answers extra I can't help but wonder if anyone here, (other than me), has truly been loved or loved? If not that is really so very sad. There is nothing to compare with loving someone and being loved in return. Some of the best days of my life was sitting and just talking to the person who loved me, someone I trusted and trusted me. We were as close to being one as any individuals could possibly be. I can honestly say I have been that fortuanate more than once.
Perhaps we humans need to open our selves up more so one can truly see who we are. You must be willing to be open, to chance being hurt in order to be loved. It is a kind of trust you don't give to just anyone but to someone willing to do the same. It can be very scary but the rewards far out weigh the pain of losing.
It is something we all seek but not everyone finds; perhaps because we still hold back just a little?

[Ronnie]

No I can honestly say that I've never truly been loved by any of my ex's. Even my ex-fiancee didn't really love me as we were too different. As such I've never really loved as its hard to give yourself to someone who doesn't really want you there or sees you as a convenience.

So no, in the romantic sense of the word I've never been loved.

Sometimes I'd like to know what it feels like. other times I think its just too much hassle for too little gain.

[Lady1st]

No I can honestly say that I've never truly been loved by any of my ex's. Even my ex-fiancee didn't really love me as we were too different. As such I've never really loved as its hard to give yourself to someone who doesn't really want you there or sees you as a convenience.

So no, in the romantic sense of the word I've never been loved.

Sometimes I'd like to know what it feels like. other times I think its just too much hassle for too little gain.

Ronnie, I'm sorry you have had such experiences it is no wonder you think it isn't worth what "little" you would gain. Of course you would feel that way because you don't know what it is like to be truly loved. I can only tell you there is nothing like it, no way to describe it, it is all consuming yet it makes one complete. One feels as if the world belongs to them and nothing or no one can get in there way. With your mate by your side you can accomplish anything. The love, the way it feels no words can describe I won't even try. Poets have tried and could not capture the words so why should I try. It is the most beautiful thing one can imagine. I couldn't wish for more for anyone than to find that kind of love. It comes on when it is mutual. It isn't lust, it isn't just desire because those fade with time. The kind of love I'm talking about only gets better...sure there are arguments, each has their own opinon but they still respect each other, the love doesn't stop just because they don't agree. It is amazing and worth the risk.

[Ronnie]

Nah. What you are talking about is risking getting stuck with another dud or another abuser on the small chance I might find real love. The odds are too great and its just too much bloody hassle.

Single may be lonely and not having someoen to hold is frustrating but better that than what I've had. And your idea of love sounds nice, but it also sounds way out of my reach.

[Lady1st]

When his hair started to fall out, his belly began to grow, I loved him still. My son-in-law said the most beautiful thing I ever heard when he described my daughter and time. He said, "She is a master piece and with each scar, each wrinkle it she just gets better; only adds to the master piece." Well that's as close as I can come but you get the picture, excuse the pun.

[Lady1st]

Nah. What you are talking about is risking getting stuck with another dud or another abuser on the small chance I might find real love. The odds are too great and its just too much bloody hassle.

Single may be lonely and not having someoen to hold is frustrating but better that than what I've had. And your idea of love sounds nice, but it also sounds way out of my reach.

I understand what you are saying. I have not dated for over 10 years and have been single for 20. But it is because I won't settle for less. I had my fun of course but now it isn't enough. I'm not looking but for reasons other than yours. I hope you change your mind and I hope you find "Love". I don't call it "true" because there are many kinds of love, many levels but there is one kind of Love that surpasses them all.

[Mattie]

No I can honestly say that I've never truly been loved by any of my ex's. Even my ex-fiancee didn't really love me as we were too different. As such I've never really loved as its hard to give yourself to someone who doesn't really want you there or sees you as a convenience.

So no, in the romantic sense of the word I've never been loved.

Sometimes I'd like to know what it feels like. other times I think its just too much hassle for too little gain.

I can relate. I don't think my ex-husband ever really loved me, though he claims he did. The signs show otherwise, though. I was loved once after him, though that only lasted a year. I hope you find out what it feels like someday.

[Lady1st]

No I can honestly say that I've never truly been loved by any of my ex's. Even my ex-fiancee didn't really love me as we were too different. As such I've never really loved as its hard to give yourself to someone who doesn't really want you there or sees you as a convenience.

So no, in the romantic sense of the word I've never been loved.

Sometimes I'd like to know what it feels like. other times I think its just too much hassle for too little gain.

I can relate. I don't think my ex-husband ever really loved me, though he claims he did. The signs show otherwise, though. I was loved once after him, though that only lasted a year. I hope you find out what it feels like someday.

Thank you for reply and I hope you find it again some day.

[John]

I have both loved and been loved it was quite some time ago but I used to be engadged for two and a half years (together 3 years), it ended with her breaking my heart though and it's taken years for me to get back on the horse so to speak but now I'm ready, willing and able I'm quite shy though so it's a bit hard, but I'm working on that one the people on this site and especially the girls are awesome and they're helping me a lot with it which I'm very grateful for!

[Lady1st]

I have both loved and been loved it was quite some time ago but I used to be engadged for two and a half years (together 3 years), it ended with her breaking my heart though and it's taken years for me to get back on the horse so to speak but now I'm ready, willing and able I'm quite shy though so it's a bit hard, but I'm working on that one the people on this site and especially the girls are awesome and they're helping me a lot with it which I'm very grateful for!

It is great that you are moving past the pain and healing. To love again is awesome and I'm sure you will find someone who will not break your heart. We must be willing to open ourselves up for that possibility though in order to accept the love that is possible. This is much harder to do than to say. Once hurt, as you know, we are not so willing to put our heart in the fire again. But the feeling you had.....was it not worth it?
I think a lot of men are shy. I also think they don't heal or get over hurt as easily as women do. We ladies do not realize how sensitive you really are. I have had a lot of male friends, non-sexual, who shared a lot with me. I was very amazed to find out what teddy bears you really are.
If you have a JR College or Adult Education classes near you they offer classes on how to become less shy. You may want to think about that....or just hang out here.