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[alex]

so through my many young years of life, i've witnessed many girls go for the "bad boys", the guys that get in trouble. Now it tickles my fancy when girls ask where are all the decent, honest men
I'll share a story about my friend....So my friend (lets call him jack) met this girl (lets call her jill) and they hooked up. The first few weeks they were getting to know each other and started to become all lovey dovy. Now i knew bob pretty well and he was one of those decent, honest guys. well about a month of their dating jill (who happened to be in my class) was becoming interested in some other guy who happened to be a "bad boy" and she wanted to break it off with bob. Jill didnt break it off just like that, no she was playing games with him, using his money, practically stabbing him in the heart with a knife and twisting it. A month later she started to tell him that she doesnt like him anymore, but he loved her so much. When he found out what she was doing he fell apart and pretty much became a jackass.
Morale of the story, there are honest guys out there, its just you dont realize you have one until you've been in a bad relationship.
What do you ladies/girls think about this?

[Erin]

There are plenty of honest, caring, true men out there, I know that. Pretty much all of the guys I have been in a relationship with have been genuinely good guys, and it's awesome! I am, however, extremely attracted to guys that are "rough around the edges", so to speak. I'm not talking about guys that have done the hardcore things like jailtime and things of that sort, but I like tattoos and the attitude of, "If you mess with my girl/friends/family, you will be sorry." My ex-husband was a "bad boy", and had a lot of other issues. The only thing is, after being with him, I have found that when I do start dating or getting a relationship going with a genuinely good, honest, romantic guy, I find myself longing for someone who knows what they want and doesn't always rely on me to make decisions. Maybe it's just the guys I have dated? I just know that the ones I have dated are timid all-around, and don't really know what they want, but they aren't comfortable with trying new things or being the one to make a decision. I just can't stand to be the one "wearing the pants" all the time; I like to know that if it ever came down to it, the guy would be able to protect me and hold his own. Not putting the "good guys" down!! I'm sure there are guys like that that are genuinely good guys and are just as capable....just wondering where they are??? Lol. What is you definition of "good guys" and "bad boys" anyway?? Just so I know if I'm completely twisted up about this, haha.

[Mattie]

so through my many young years of life, i've witnessed many girls go for the "bad boys", the guys that get in trouble. Now it tickles my fancy when girls ask where are all the decent, honest men
I'll share a story about my friend....So my friend (lets call him jack) met this girl (lets call her jill) and they hooked up. The first few weeks they were getting to know each other and started to become all lovey dovy. Now i knew bob pretty well and he was one of those decent, honest guys. well about a month of their dating jill (who happened to be in my class) was becoming interested in some other guy who happened to be a "bad boy" and she wanted to break it off with bob. Jill didnt break it off just like that, no she was playing games with him, using his money, practically stabbing him in the heart with a knife and twisting it. A month later she started to tell him that she doesnt like him anymore, but he loved her so much. When he found out what she was doing he fell apart and pretty much became a jackass.
Morale of the story, there are honest guys out there, its just you dont realize you have one until you've been in a bad relationship.
What do you ladies/girls think about this?

I'm sorry your friend went through that:( That as wrong of 'Jill' to do. It's hard to get over that kind of that thing.

Nope, don't like the 'bad boys' . Don't like guys who get in trouble all the time. When I lived in Montreal I knew several.....bad boys (when I say that, I mean hard core bad boys who should probably have been in jail for 20 - 30 years). Not one got close to me. If it comes out that someone I'm dating is a 'bad boy', he's gone. A guy doesn't need to be a 'bad boy' to be able to stand up for himself, those he loves, and others, have tats, be decisive...lots of nice guys are like that. The nice, honest, decent guys are the ones I greatly prefer.

[alex]

Erin- i see where your coming from with the "nice guy" not always being decisive. In a way nice guys do have a tendancy to get clingly and attached.
The type of "bad boy" that I'm refering to is like the one who beats people up for fun, does stupid things that could get them in trouble pretty much.
Personally I dont know where I fit in with all this, I can defend myself and others cause not to brag but I'm a Marine, so I know how to take care of myself. I respect women, lol and the girls that know me always get a kick outta me when i go to a unibathroom and some guy didnt lift the toilet seat when he pissed. I get pretty aggravated cause I know if I was a chick I wouldn't like to sit on some dudes piss. lol yea my mom raised me to always respect a woman, well she was the only parent I had, there was never a father figure in my life, I guess thats one of the reasons why I joined the military...to become a man?

[Erin]

I'm not trying to be mean or anything, that's just what I have experienced personally. Oh man, my ex-husband is a Marine, , lol. Please, do NOT take that the wrong way. He and his buddies are the kind of Marines that give Marines a bad name, that's all I'll say. You sound like a good one though, no worries! Where are you stationed?

[alex]

camp lejeune, i just got here this past thursday and got stuck at ipac, which is where you check in
yea i know what you mean by those types of marines, im sorry

[Erin]

Oh ok, he's at Cherry Point. Have fun checking in, lol . Eh, no worries. I'm just glad whatever good was in him went to our daughter, and she didn't pick up any of his less desirable qualities. It's Saturday night! Go out and do something....isn't UFC 100 on tonight??? Sounds like a good night for Buffalo Wild Wings to me, lol .

[alex]

ah haha well dont you know me well already , lol
well i spent most my money on july 4th back at home at a bunch of parties, had a great time, then i spent at least 100-200 dollars on my trip out to camp lejeune, but im waiting for my next paycheck, i got to get new tires for my car and hopefully i'll be getting my 5 grand for completing my schooling

[princess]

I think most girls liked a "bad boy" at some time. I think the term badboy is kinda lose. It could range from a player to a prisioner. I think most girls found bad boys attractive because you really had to work hard to catch one. it is kinda the thrill of the chase. However, you grow up and know who you are and want charecteristics you want in a man. The bad boys dont seem so attractive anymore. plus, if you can catch one. What do you do when you have him. you probably dont have much in commom, goals, values. Plus there boring once the chase is over.

[alex]

from what I've heard one of the reasons girls good for a bad boy is so she can try and change him, make him a better person.