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[Robert]

Hi Ladies,

I am looking for honest female opinions to my situation and will appreciate it if no-one laughs at me.

I am a 42yo male with Aspergers syndrome. Whilst I am extremely intelligent, highly educated and hold a management position within my company, like most people with AS, I am rather limited in my understanding of social conventions and behaviours. Whilst I can cope socially with other men and hold a passably normal conversation, I am not nearly as proficient when talking to women. Basically, my disablilty has made it difficult for me to develop the necessary social skills that I need to interact with women. As you might imagine, I lack a lot of confidence whenever I try to hold any form of conversation with a woman. The very idea of asking a woman out on a date terrifies me.

However, what social proficiencies I have, I have managed to learn. I believe if I met the right woman, I could learn how to better interact with women in general. The end result would still be short of outstanding but I would be better than I am now. The issue would be to meet the right woman.

My question is this: Is there any hope for me to meet a woman who could accept my disability or am I destinied to spend my life alone?

I have no idea how women perceive men with handicaps, disabilities or whatever other terminology you want to use. Any genuine female feedback would be appreciated.

[Corinna]

Hi Robert,

I just wanted to say that you shouldn't lose hope. I feel that there is someone for everyone, and you're making the right decision by actively posting on here. I had a squizz at your profile, and I thought it was very nicely worded, unlike many other profiles on here.

If I were you, I would upload a few more photographs of yourself - really nice ones where you present to your best advantage. You've made a good start, but it'd be better to have a few more.

No shots where you are drinking alcohol or cuddling another woman, those sorts of things are tacky!

I can't speak for other women, but your health issues wouldn't bother me. As long as you are kind and respectful, and willing to listen and learn, you'll win someone's heart.

Take care, and best of luck,
Corinna

[Char]

Hi~ I'm autistic and have issues with both genders. Poor men though never seem to know if I'm coming or going~ so much of our culture is built on indirect, work it out speech

You are not destined to be alone if that is not what your heart's path wants.

Practice approaching women across various situations~ at the checkout, at the hardware and video store; approach women you are not physically attracted to because this is good practice with less anxiety and you may be surprised at the friendships you create.

I see my "disorder" as a great filter for identifying the qualities in a man that I want to spend more time with. I am getting better at disqualifying those with whom I would not be interested in taking things beyond the acquaintance level.

Keep using the forums to gather different opinions on encounters and experiences, and read read read internet and hard copies to learn more about how neurotypicals generally approach the world.

And you can pm me anytime :*******************

[Laura]

I am not familiar with AS. I am going to go on asumtion. I have to say I am sorry because I have alot of questions.

Why is it harder to talk to women than men?

I just finished the third day of digging a 45' L * 2' deep drain tile ditch. I am behind my key board full of clay, calloused and blistered. My point " Not many women are like that but they arent all that different from guys".
We will for the most part do what we have to do to save the basement, feed ourselves and children, and hold what we have.

Most of us prefer being women. We love having doors opened for us, flowers (even when we dont deserve them),
Compliments just because.

I have always liked a guy because he is who he is. I like that he cant find the words to say sometimes too.

I'm not sure why it would be hard to talk to women? And yes. If you can talk to guys, you can talk to anyone.