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[♥Allie]

Why is everyone so worried about what other people think??
It's about you being confident with yourself!
If your out there trying to please everybody with changing yourself, your never going to be happy!
Plus women are attracted to confidence!!!

[Shane]

Man what is it with all you people on this site all half of you want is to be told you are beautiful or handsom just get on with unless you have the money for surgury very little you can do about it so just be happy

It would be one thing if he said "My last girlfriend told me I'm ugly, is it true?" but he simply wanted honest opinions - NOT to be told he is good looking if they truly didn't think so. Therefore, your whole basis for causing a ruckus is meaningless.

Before you knock someone else for doing something, please be aware that everything comes back to haunt you in the long run. You taking the time to TRY and make him feel bad about asking the question, only made yourself look like an uneducated jerk. Yes, this is a "kid" telling you that your English usage unbelievably sucks.

If people wanted your negativity, I'm sure they could get it elsewhere. You, my friend, get on with your nonsense and stop being a drama-starter.

Man i am not knocking him it is just ironic that the biggest posts around here are "am i beautiful" "am i good looking" in the big scheme of things it really dosnt matter. and as the body is only a vechical for the soul so what is more impt inside or out you tell me. but hey at 23 i knew everything as well at 40 all i know is i know very little so chill out its all a bit of fun. people who can laugh at themselves are sexy pity about the rest of you

Tricky where are you, thought we could chat about this

[Shane]

Why is everyone so worried about what other people think??
It's about you being confident with yourself!
If your out there trying to please everybody with changing yourself, your never going to be happy!
Plus women are attracted to confidence!!!

See tricky this girl has it going on

oh and that was confidence not arrogance

[Tricky]

Heh, what is there to talk about? You blatantly called me arrogant and you think I'm going to just come back to argue about it? First of all, I never said I know everything... I am not here to make enemies. I fully agree that changing yourself to try and make someone else like you more is simply outrageous. However, there is never any shame in wondering if people find you attractive.

Life is about making it all better in the long run. I don't think someone should get tattoos, piercings, a whole new "look," and alter WHO they really are just to impress someone. However, there is no basis of that here, at all. From my recollection, he simply asked if he was alright looking. He did NOT ask "what can I change to make myself more attractive?" which is how you interpreted it.

I'll compare clothes shopping with it all to get my point across. Say you're shopping one day and you are debating on buying a green shirt. Then, an attractive girl is walking by so you stop her and ask "does this shirt look okay on me?" - in theory, she has two answers: "yes" or "no." However, lets assume she chose option 3 and said "it looks okay, but I think the blue one would look better on you" and walks away.

Do you try on the blue one instead? Of course you do. Now here is where signals get mixed. I, personally, would try on the blue shirt ONLY because she gave me her opinion. She's gone already, so chances are - if you don't like the shirt, you won't buy it. So instead, lets assume she didn't leave but waited for you to try on the blue shirt. You come out and hate it - yet she is praising how good it looks on you.

In my opinion, if you buy the shirt and dislike it - you are changing yourself based on another person's opinion alone and that is wrong. However, say you DID like the shirt and you buy it, are you supposed to feel bad over changing your mind? Your purchase was influenced by someone else's opinion...

Go ahead and give me your answer and I will tell you what I think.


I am, however, a bit confused as to how this turned into a Ricky-bashing thread. Personally, I'm fine with how I look so if you were trying to indirectly point her message as to help me in some way - you've wasted your time. I am happy with the way I look - I have flaws like every other human but I deal with them. I don't walk around with my head between my legs thinking I'm unattractive - I know I'm not model material but I'm also not the worst looking person on Earth and that, my friend, is enough to make me confident with myself. I know SOMEONE will be attracted to me so why worry about it?