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[Kevin]

I find it annoying that some women think all a man wants is sex ! There is more to us guys then getting laid !!
I am looking, hopefully, to write the final chapter in my life with a good woman. I, for one, know there is more to a relationship than sex. There is committment, compassion, compromise and caring attitude.
At 52, I have lived through the bad times and know enough not to repeat the same mistakes twice. I have my faults, but who is perfect ? If you say you are, your lying to yourself. We all have something that will not agree with our partner but we should be able to overlook things or reach a compromise if we care enough.
Age is just a number and a state of mind. As it is said, "Never judge a book by it's cover". The things inside are better than the window dressing outside !!!

[Beth]

Why is it women think all men are after just sex?

EXPERIENCE.

You may be different, or simply perceive yourself as different. I don't know you, so I couldn't say for sure.

But you have to understand that the guys who's first message to you is "What's your cup size?" are ruining your chances of getting any woman to stop being defensive about the FACT that all men are just after sex. We women have some issues like that to deal with too - not ALL of us are gold diggers. But, we still have to play the game until we as individuals are proven. So will you.

It is what it is.

[Karl]

Beth, you make a valid point. So does Kemiga for that matter.

I can only go by my life experiences, and to be hones, everyone has things in thier past that will not stand the light of day.

In your favor, Beth, men are mostly just looking for that bedroom hookup, all else comes later.

Kemiga, women want the "all else" first.

As for me??? well, lets just say that I need things that most females can't give, so I perforce must take a burgeoning relationship slow. Wait and see what develops......

But, that is me, one in an ocean of males.


Karl

[Kevin]

Good points Karl & Beth !
In todays society, one cannot be TOO careful. Too many weirdo's and perverts have access to the internet highway.
I, too, am skeptical when I get emails from women that say very little about themselves. I like to take the time to know someone before I even meet them.
I may sound weird for a man, but I want the "all the other" stuff first too. Sex is only good when it is heartfelt and meaningful to both parties. Don't fool yourself if you think sex can build a relationship from the start. You have to build the relationship before sex !! You have wasted dreams if you don't.

[Beth]

I may sound weird for a man, but I want the "all the other" stuff first too. Sex is only good when it is heartfelt and meaningful to both parties. Don't fool yourself if you think sex can build a relationship from the start. You have to build the relationship before sex !! You have wasted dreams if you don't.

There are some, . . . nay, many . . . of us women who LOVE "weird, for a man". If you truly do want all the other stuff first, then you truly are weird. And if you truly are weird, I want to get to know you!

I have to wonder why most men don't get this about women. We tell ya all the time! Get a clue, ya'll! It's certainly not that we are disinterested in sex. It's that we have to know, and trust, before sex with someone is good. Period. (Well, I should refrain from speaking for all women. I speak for myself, and most of my friends I've talked with about this subject.)

Beth

[Michele]

Because most men are .you must know that that doesn't build relationships or love.

[Kevin]

I agree, most men can be crude. Look at what our society has turned into. Every commercial, TV show or movie has some degree of sex associated with it. Most of it is put right out there with no holds barred !
You cannot escape the sexual overtones that the media displays constantly. Maybe I am old fashioned more than I realize but I do not think it is appropriate if we are trying to teach our children what is proper and what is not.
I have found that some women on these "dating" sights leave nothing to the imagination. Either they are showing parts of their body or they just come right out and say what they want. I think it is degrading and uncalled for. Personally, I would rather wait and leave the rest up to the imagination.
I do not need to be re-schooled in appropriate behavior. I have a good idea what a woman likes and expects a partner to be like. I have tried to instill this same behavior in my son so he will grow up to be a respectable man. Time will tell if he was listening !!! lol

[Honey]

Hi Kevin
You sound very much like someone I wouldn't be terrified to meet. Having said that, you are a rare man among men and I do hope there are many more out there like yourself. Women are getting tired of hearing guys on first dates saying "Your place or mine". A pity your profile is no longer available to view but I hope you get this message anyway.

[Glenn]

I believe both men and women look for basicaly the same like when in a club both men and women look at apperance's before they start a conversation or stay longer cause of and yes I do believe that both men and women DO enjoy sex just as much as they will admitt too.

[Eva]

At least in my country have I heard men telling me that they have one night stand with women they find online, it is easy and cheap to talk on Internet with some and then visit them for sex....one time

That's what I have heard and that is also my experiences of men I have met online but not in the real life.

There is much trash on Internet, I mean in their way of thinking about love.

I have no time for one night stand because I want to rest with ONE man for the rest of our lifes. When I was younger I never saw the time limit but I do it now.