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by **Noelle** 101 days, 4 hours ago

I couldn't have explained it better! Perfect!

Beth wrote:Why is it women think all men are after just sex?

EXPERIENCE.

You may be different, or simply perceive yourself as different. I don't know you, so I couldn't say for sure.

But you have to understand that the guys who's first message to you is "What's your cup size?" are ruining your chances of getting any woman to stop being defensive about the FACT that all men are just after sex. We women have some issues like that to deal with too - not ALL of us are gold diggers. But, we still have to play the game until we as individuals are proven. So will you.

It is what it is.

by **SKAY. +358449687761** 97 days, 10 hours ago

This is because they have been hearing several sayings from ###d all are the ### they feel that any other man that comes around has the same thing in mind. But before then,they know themselves cos they have that in mind as well but would like to pretend so as to play hard to get......lol.........

by **Sparkles** 92 days, 5 hours ago

SKAY. +358449687761 wrote:This is because they have been hearing several sayings from ###d all are the ### they feel that any other man that comes around has the same thing in mind. But before then,they know themselves cos they have that in mind as well but would like to pretend so as to play hard to get......lol.........

Are you saying women recognise this because that's what they really want?
Apologies if I've misinterpreted your post, but that was what it sounded like.
I do have to agree though, somewhat. Of course women want sex, just not on the stairs when they get back from a first date. :lol:

Missparkles.

by **BobWalker** 27 days, 16 hours ago

Michele wrote:Because most men are .you must know that that doesn't build relationships or love.

Most, but there are some, especially our age that have grown beyond that. Some of us are just here to chat & get to know new people. Friendship is permanent, sex only lasts a short while. Once the sex is done, what ever do you do?

by **Sparkles** 27 days, 13 hours ago

Well said Bob.

Sparkles.

by **BobWalker** 27 days, 6 hours ago

Actually, I should elaborate a bit. I think we all want and need the physical contact and affection. However, after we hit our mid 20's to mid 30's, we start to realize that doing through life dick first is not a productive plan. People who experience failures or lack of success tend to learn this faster, those more successful at it often learn to use it for personal gain and may never get past it. Although not limited to either gender, there's a saying used among guys: "never underestimate the power of the pussy" that says it pretty clearly (if not bluntly). Women learn very early that they are in extreme demand and can use it very effectively for personal gain. It's a fact of life that only a handful of the most studly/popular/successsful guys can cash in on. Guys that don't have the gift of being somehow irresistable need to realize that they don't have it and eventually work past it. Both types of people stand a good chance of realizing what I said in my last post - the sex is only a tiny portion of the experience. At some point we all have to grow up and move on.

by **Glenn** 27 days, 2 hours ago

Kevin wrote:Good points Karl & Beth !
In todays society, one cannot be TOO careful. Too many weirdo's and perverts have access to the internet highway.
I, too, am skeptical when I get emails from women that say very little about themselves. I like to take the time to know someone before I even meet them.
I may sound weird for a man, but I want the "all the other" stuff first too. Sex is only good when it is heartfelt and meaningful to both parties. Don't fool yourself if you think sex can build a relationship from the start. You have to build the relationship before sex !! You have wasted dreams if you don't.

Not weird at all, I completely agree. I'm quite certain there are lots of us that think that way. I'm new to this internet method though, so I'd have to say that the other way requires meeting to get to know anybody, but certainly taking the time to get to know a person and establish a friendship should precede any other considerations. IMO

by **vet 1** 26 days, 22 hours ago

Now people let do a gut check here. We all want sex just at different times in the dating protocall. Sure you could have a 1 nighter and for some people that is all they want men and women. There are other of us who want the whole package. We want the bonding of the mind and ###at is were good sex becomes great sex. When you feel like you are one with the person .