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[ANGIE]

I'VE MET QUIET A FEW GUYS IN MY 50 + YEARS AND ALL I EVER HEARD WAS TO FAT, TO SKINNEY,TO TALL,TO SHORT,HAIR NOT LONG ENOUGH,HAIR TO LONG...I'M SURE YOU LADIES OUT THERE KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT,WOULD THEY EVER MAKE UP THEIR MINES....

[Vivienne]

it worries me also about the 50+ male ....do you think they don't want women around the same age??
or do you think they see something diffrent than we do...

[Christine]

I truly believe they will never be satisfied until they stop and find their soul mate..instead of just youth and beauty..I am looking for mine right now, but I want a man that is capable of taking care of himself, cause I surely can take care of myself..someone that just wants to share life together and do things together that they both enjoy..but lets face it at our lives we have already lived more than half of our lives..find someone your own age men..if you are in your fifties act as such..your youth is gone, now you have maturity and wisdom above all men below you in age...be appreciative of that and go with it with women of your own age.

[Mikel]

Ok ...I know I am treading on dangerous ground here ..since I appear to be the first 50 plus man to respond. But here is my opinion... and my opinion only.

1st.. Even though I am over 50...that does not mean I am ready to kick my shoes off and start rocking the chair. I have a very full life and do a lot of things that most of my peers (men over 50) think are over the top. I love to dance, camp, hike, travel ..etc. But, I have to tell you ... most of the women (not all of them) at my age are well grounded and only really interested in spending time with thier children and grand children. And thats fine ...to a certain point. Most men at OUR age that are single have the means and the time to do a lot of great things. Probably things we only dreamed about while we were raising our young. And now that we are older, we have kind of put all those things to the side. A night out on the town ends at 10:30 if you really stretch it out. Of course we all have obligations... but who says we can not stay young in our hearts!? Do you really think a man wants to be around someone who is not thrilling, passionate, or boring? Thus ..they go after the young one's ... makes them feel young and alive.

2nd .... If you are 50 plus and a single woman now ...chances are very likely you have been married/had relationships at least once... again not all of you, if you haven't that is kind of scary too. Men my age do not want to continually pay the price for the men that have mistreated you. WE ARE NOT HIM! Get over it and quit thinking that all men are the same. Give them a chance. I find a lot of women my age have huge barriers that will not allow them to enjoy the company of a man , nor any kind of relationship, why......because they have been hurt too many times. Men like me are tired of that.

3rd...Chances are at this age, their are medical conditions that we must all deal with. It is just the way things are. But, if you are consumed by them and think that sharing your pain is flattering or looking for sympathy, you are dead wrong. I can not tell you how many times I have been around conversations where so many people our age continue to compalin about thier health..I have to see this doctor or that doctor. If there are medical issues, make sure your future partner knows and move on. Take care of it the best that you can...but don't be consumed by it.

4th .... How many times have you heard a woman say .."I don't really need a man ..just someone to live life with or enjoy things with. FACT: A man needs to feel needed!

5th...If you want a deep and commited realtionship, be willing to spend the time necessary to do so.

I realize that this my make me sound bitter (maybe too much!) but I have heard and experienced all of it. We are NEVER TO OLD...even at our age life can be a big adventure...if we would just get off of the horse and really see what is in front of us... allow ourselves to put all of the past behind us and find a wonderful future we all know that is out there!

[Ellen]

Good for you Mikel.... we have to live in the moment, appreciate each day. I must say tho that some guys are really pushing it. Age 65-70 really can't expect to keep up to those chicks of 35-40..???

[Ross]

YOUR NOT DOING IT RIGHT!

[ANGIE]

HELLO MIKE, I APPRECIATE YOUR COMMENTS,YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY TRUE.I APOLOGIZE FOR HOW I POSTED MY SUBJECT, I'M SURE YOU THOUGHT I MEANT EVERY MAN,BUT NO, IM PRETTY SURE THERE ARE SOME GOOD MEN OUT THERE,ACTUALLY IT'S JUST THOSE ELECT FEW THAT TRIES TO DISCREDIT OUR GOOD MEN,BUT I KNOW BETTER!!!!!!! YOU MADE A LOT OF GREAT POINTS. TAKE CARE

[Vivienne]

I have started the ball rolling ...sorry folks ...but just one more thing to say....i am 60 this year, very very fit....and belive me young man i do it right ...and once again sorry to all the men who are getting it right ..lol.x.x

[Victoria]

:? it worries me also about the 50+ male ....do you think they don't want women around the same age??
or do you think they see something diffrent than we do...

I work in a mans world and most of them are moving towards the middle age. I believe that they are looking for the younger model, and cannot blame them at all. Why not? When I was younger I always fancied the older guy. Men are more distinguished when older. Now I get a lot of mails from younger men, its me thinking gosh do I want a younger model? Decisions! Its not really fair to say Men are never satisified because many of them are. This could easily come back on the Ladies and how they view things and what actually satisfies them. My vote is for the guys on this one.

[Vivienne]

I am now taking myself out of this debate...going silly ...take care .Viv