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Warning ~ a true story about an encounter with a scammer
Want to warn all users of online dating sites about a recent encounter.
On April 8/09 a LavaLife user going by the name "Yourstruly2" made contact with me. The name he eventually gave me was John Anderson, from Calgary Alberta. We were soon corresponding by ### after meeting on Lavalife (his request).
I sincerely believe this person intended me as a victim of a scam. Red flags came up earlier on this week when he asked for money to be sent to him, with a promise to repay when he was back from his trip (apparently May 3) ~ apparently he was stranded in NW Africa on a business trip ~ was involved in a car accident on the day he asked for money to be sent to him. He said during the chaos of the accident scene, his bag had stolen with all his cash and credit card. He said his credit card company could not get a replacement card to him because they had no affiliation with any of the local banks where he was. This guy had been smoozing me for a couple of weeks so I definitely felt shocked with his request. (I had been so looking forward to meeting him when he got back to Calgary, which of course is not going to happen!) I told him 'no I could not send him money; that it was inappropriate that he asked considering that we haven't even met in person; and that he could go to the closest Canadian Embassy (alternatively the American Embassy in Accra) for assistance'.
In hindsight, I note that while his profile was in perfect English and well written, his e-mails and ###ing were not. It appears now that English is not his first language ... even though his profile picture was of a handsome white man. I did report him to LavaLife. Interesting to note also that he was a new user and then disappeared off of Lavalife just the day before making his move on requesting $$.
I wonder if there have been other women/men targeted in this fashion so am getting the word out about the incident. Never send money and always report any such requests. Also, it is safer to stay on the dating site to communicate rather than ###ing.
I do wonder why persons who send a smile or flirt ask for a Windows Messenger e-mail contact. Any comments?
On April 8/09 a LavaLife user going by the name "Yourstruly2" made contact with me. The name he eventually gave me was John Anderson, from Calgary Alberta. We were soon corresponding by ### after meeting on Lavalife (his request).
I sincerely believe this person intended me as a victim of a scam. Red flags came up earlier on this week when he asked for money to be sent to him, with a promise to repay when he was back from his trip (apparently May 3) ~ apparently he was stranded in NW Africa on a business trip ~ was involved in a car accident on the day he asked for money to be sent to him. He said during the chaos of the accident scene, his bag had stolen with all his cash and credit card. He said his credit card company could not get a replacement card to him because they had no affiliation with any of the local banks where he was. This guy had been smoozing me for a couple of weeks so I definitely felt shocked with his request. (I had been so looking forward to meeting him when he got back to Calgary, which of course is not going to happen!) I told him 'no I could not send him money; that it was inappropriate that he asked considering that we haven't even met in person; and that he could go to the closest Canadian Embassy (alternatively the American Embassy in Accra) for assistance'.
In hindsight, I note that while his profile was in perfect English and well written, his e-mails and ###ing were not. It appears now that English is not his first language ... even though his profile picture was of a handsome white man. I did report him to LavaLife. Interesting to note also that he was a new user and then disappeared off of Lavalife just the day before making his move on requesting $$.
I wonder if there have been other women/men targeted in this fashion so am getting the word out about the incident. Never send money and always report any such requests. Also, it is safer to stay on the dating site to communicate rather than ###ing.
I do wonder why persons who send a smile or flirt ask for a Windows Messenger e-mail contact. Any comments?
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Bev - Posts: 1
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Re: Warning ~ a true story about an encounter with a scammer
You are absolutly correct. Never send money. Always be careful.
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Rosealie - Posts: 1
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Alls fare in love and war. I have a simular instance only a lot worse then yours. I went to a Christian Dating service online met got married and then found out my husband was a convicted domestic violence criminal I was his next victim. So beware of any dating service and post to them that they will have a background check placed on them.
Bev wrote:Want to warn all users of online dating sites about a recent encounter.
On April 8/09 a LavaLife user going by the name "Yourstruly2" made contact with me. The name he eventually gave me was John Anderson, from Calgary Alberta. We were soon corresponding by ### after meeting on Lavalife (his request).
I sincerely believe this person intended me as a victim of a scam. Red flags came up earlier on this week when he asked for money to be sent to him, with a promise to repay when he was back from his trip (apparently May 3) ~ apparently he was stranded in NW Africa on a business trip ~ was involved in a car accident on the day he asked for money to be sent to him. He said during the chaos of the accident scene, his bag had stolen with all his cash and credit card. He said his credit card company could not get a replacement card to him because they had no affiliation with any of the local banks where he was. This guy had been smoozing me for a couple of weeks so I definitely felt shocked with his request. (I had been so looking forward to meeting him when he got back to Calgary, which of course is not going to happen!) I told him 'no I could not send him money; that it was inappropriate that he asked considering that we haven't even met in person; and that he could go to the closest Canadian Embassy (alternatively the American Embassy in Accra) for assistance'.
In hindsight, I note that while his profile was in perfect English and well written, his e-mails and ###ing were not. It appears now that English is not his first language ... even though his profile picture was of a handsome white man. I did report him to LavaLife. Interesting to note also that he was a new user and then disappeared off of Lavalife just the day before making his move on requesting $$.
I wonder if there have been other women/men targeted in this fashion so am getting the word out about the incident. Never send money and always report any such requests. Also, it is safer to stay on the dating site to communicate rather than ###ing.
I do wonder why persons who send a smile or flirt ask for a Windows Messenger e-mail contact. Any comments?
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Brenda - Posts: 1
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This past week I head something in disbelief. I did exactly what my friend did to protect me, googled his name and town. It listed him as being a volunteer for a group that I a also volunteer for, that's how we met 9 months ago. First was listed the organization that we're involved and then that he was a level 3 sex offender. assault and rape. I'm still in shock and nervous about having any encounter.
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Shana - Posts: 1
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I took have an almost identical story. ### first contacted me on FreeHookup. he appeared to be a middle aged caucasion male who had a fifteen year old daughter. the day before we were supposed to meet, he had a business trip emergency that took him to Ghana. Suddenly, on the way back, there was a supposed car accident, and so called doctors called me saying he and his daughter would die if I didn't send money for their hospital bill. One his next attempt to get home, "robbers took everything and now there is no money to get home" I found his email on ###, and the picture didn't match the ones he'd sent me. he denied the profile saying it wasn't him. he finally stopped contacting me when it was obvious I wasn't going to send any money. The next two FreeHookup contacts I had started off with practically the same story! It's very frustrating.
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Re: Warning ~ a true story about an encounter with a scammer
Bev wrote:Want to warn all users of online dating sites about a recent encounter.
On April 8/09 a LavaLife user going by the name "Yourstruly2" made contact with me. The name he eventually gave me was John Anderson, from Calgary Alberta. We were soon corresponding by ### after meeting on Lavalife (his request).
I sincerely believe this person intended me as a victim of a scam. Red flags came up earlier on this week when he asked for money to be sent to him, with a promise to repay when he was back from his trip (apparently May 3) ~ apparently he was stranded in NW Africa on a business trip ~ was involved in a car accident on the day he asked for money to be sent to him. He said during the chaos of the accident scene, his bag had stolen with all his cash and credit card. He said his credit card company could not get a replacement card to him because they had no affiliation with any of the local banks where he was. This guy had been smoozing me for a couple of weeks so I definitely felt shocked with his request. (I had been so looking forward to meeting him when he got back to Calgary, which of course is not going to happen!) I told him 'no I could not send him money; that it was inappropriate that he asked considering that we haven't even met in person; and that he could go to the closest Canadian Embassy (alternatively the American Embassy in Accra) for assistance'.
In hindsight, I note that while his profile was in perfect English and well written, his e-mails and ###ing were not. It appears now that English is not his first language ... even though his profile picture was of a handsome white man. I did report him to LavaLife. Interesting to note also that he was a new user and then disappeared off of Lavalife just the day before making his move on requesting $$.
I wonder if there have been other women/men targeted in this fashion so am getting the word out about the incident. Never send money and always report any such requests. Also, it is safer to stay on the dating site to communicate rather than ###ing.
I do wonder why persons who send a smile or flirt ask for a Windows Messenger e-mail contact. Any comments?
The reason for the MS application requests are because they are the most vulnerable to hacking and phising, stay away from them if possible. Other more secure browsers and messengers are readily available. Of late any time Africa comes up it should set off warning bells, it seems to have a greater number, but not limited too, of scammer's these days.
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Re: Warning ~ a true story about an encounter with a scammer
I have got many love scam on me and at first when I didn't understood what was going on as I had been in a relationship for a long time and didn't knew about love-scam did go in to their traps.
There is two very bad thing I have been into of those scammers.
The first one did I chat with on ### and there can you easy send pictures between each other and he made me send many nice pictures of me and my daugther.
He maybe got 30 of me and he sent me only 2 and when he said he should go to Africa for a job and in Africa did he told me that he should send a young man to me that could be adopted of him and me did I understood he was the young boy to send
But it made me both sad and angry that he got all the photo and now likely do he use them to love scam people as I was sending the best photos of me also as a young girl.
There is two very bad thing I have been into of those scammers.
The first one did I chat with on ### and there can you easy send pictures between each other and he made me send many nice pictures of me and my daugther.
He maybe got 30 of me and he sent me only 2 and when he said he should go to Africa for a job and in Africa did he told me that he should send a young man to me that could be adopted of him and me did I understood he was the young boy to send
But it made me both sad and angry that he got all the photo and now likely do he use them to love scam people as I was sending the best photos of me also as a young girl.
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The other was writing correct English and was well talking so even if I had experiences of love-scammer didn't I think he was that, in the first place.
He said he lived in Baltimore, Maryland and he gave me his telephone number and sending photo of his home and daugthers.
He sounded for real but then should he work in Africa and I called to see if his phone was for real and it was to a faxmachine only and the name that was for the fax was an old man at 90 that maybe was dead.
I told all people that I should be married and I fixed with a Pastor to marry us that was my best friend.
Then he wrote me one day from Africa and said he had bought so much cheap gold in Africa so he had no money to send the gold to USA and asked me to help him with $450
I was so embarassed so I couldn't go out for some months after have invited people to the wedding.
They going better and better in their love-scam
He said he lived in Baltimore, Maryland and he gave me his telephone number and sending photo of his home and daugthers.
He sounded for real but then should he work in Africa and I called to see if his phone was for real and it was to a faxmachine only and the name that was for the fax was an old man at 90 that maybe was dead.
I told all people that I should be married and I fixed with a Pastor to marry us that was my best friend.
Then he wrote me one day from Africa and said he had bought so much cheap gold in Africa so he had no money to send the gold to USA and asked me to help him with $450
I was so embarassed so I couldn't go out for some months after have invited people to the wedding.
They going better and better in their love-scam
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Eva - Posts: 3
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Eva wrote:The other was writing correct English and was well talking so even if I had experiences of love-scammer didn't I think he was that, in the first place.
He said he lived in Baltimore, Maryland and he gave me his telephone number and sending photo of his home and daugthers.
He sounded for real but then should he work in Africa and I called to see if his phone was for real and it was to a faxmachine only and the name that was for the fax was an old man at 90 that maybe was dead.
I told all people that I should be married and I fixed with a Pastor to marry us that was my best friend.
Then he wrote me one day from Africa and said he had bought so much cheap gold in Africa so he had no money to send the gold to USA and asked me to help him with $450
I was so embarassed so I couldn't go out for some months after have invited people to the wedding.
They going better and better in their love-scam
Look at the bright side, you learned a valuable lesson and didn't go broke doing it.

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Glenn - Posts: 442
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Truly amazing....I am a male and have received three pictures of women with an EMail....after minimal correspondence they all had some connection with either England or Afica or both. Within a short period of time they all expressed a deep and unrelentful love for me. (Someone they have never met)....and of course they all wanted to come to the US and be with me.......the catch was they all needed money for the trip. When I said no, are you kidding?????? Then the anger, and you don't trust me stuff.....no I don't and I won't send you money and then their gone and you can see them cruising the internet looking for other victims...watch out...the picture sent to you is a very attractive lady......however all three of these scam attempts had frayed English and it was quite obvious that their first language was not English. Also they listed their profile as somewhere in the US however when contacted....they were in England or somewhere in Africa. My perception is that it's the same person and it's a man.......watch out!!!!!!!
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