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ho do u get some

[CherylS]

First, find a grief support group for you to understand your feelings of loss and to overcome some of the loneliness you're feeling right now. Then, you might want to go on a diet, start exercising, join a singles group, become friends with people (both men and women), then get to know one particular woman whom you have things in common with. Sex will happen if/when the time is right. You may be a nice guy (you may not be), but unless you are really good looking and fit, don't expect to get sex right away - you might have to wait until your personality (if you have a good one) wins a woman over.
Before having sex, you might want to read one of the hundreds of books on the subject of pleasing a woman - get a reputable one written by a sex therapist or psychologist. Remember - women want to be pleasured in bed!

[Brenda]

First, find a grief support group for you to understand your feelings of loss and to overcome some of the loneliness you're feeling right now. Then, you might want to go on a diet, start exercising, join a singles group, become friends with people (both men and women), then get to know one particular woman whom you have things in common with. Sex will happen if/when the time is right. You may be a nice guy (you may not be), but unless you are really good looking and fit, don't expect to get sex right away - you might have to wait until your personality (if you have a good one) wins a woman over.
Before having sex, you might want to read one of the hundreds of books on the subject of pleasing a woman - get a reputable one written by a sex therapist or psychologist. Remember - women want to be pleasured in bed!

OUCH....OUCH........"go on a diet and start exercising"....I guess sex is completely out of the picture for me..."really good looking and fit".....First, I would like to be pleasured in my mind, soul, heart, spiritually, and then I just might be in the mood for sex....I must be a weirdo. Or just lack of those crazy lsex hormones!

[CherylS]

Good for you Brenda - you have the right attitude - find a guy to connect with to be pleasured in mind, soul, heart, and spiritually - that's the way to a great sex life. You don't need diet and exercise because for you sex is a total experience. My remarks to diet and exercise were for Tiny who only seemed interested in sex itself, and not connecting with someone in any real way. You are not a weirdo!

[Rosemarie]

My soulmate has sadly passed 5 1/2 years ago. The aggressor in me was satisfied then and not my concern since. Just now even thinking to talk to a male. Still very traditional in sex - only in marriage. You'll be 'barking up the wrong tree' if you don't understand that. I want to know if there's life out there. I want to know if my life can be shared again. I will guard my decency but be open and loving in a growing relatioonship because of the experiences I garnered in my life. I have a lot to offer and want a man to appreciate that as I will learn about his qualities.

[TonyB]

I basically agree with what Mike says. We are all individuals and should be treated accordingly rather than as stereo-typical examples.

What I would like to add is that not all men prefer 'younger models'. For me, emotional engagement and inner beauty are more important than superficial 'finish'. When a teenager I had a huge crush on the woman who lived next door. I think that the feeling was mutual, but at the time I lacked the maturity and confidence to interpret the signals correctly. Ever since then, I have appreciated 'older' women who can offer more in terms of experience, conversation and understanding than any 'younger models' - especially those YMs who are so impressed by their own looks that they cannot see true beauty in anyone else.

Anyway, the pay-off for all this for me is that I find many of the 'older women' who I think are so attractive are now members of my own social grouping - and so more realistically accessible to me, and vice versa! I frequently find myself flirting outrageously with female peers I meet in a way I could never have dreamed possible even when in my 20s! All good, harmless fun, but who knows, one day...

I know I am not alone in feeling like this - so don't despair ladies - your soul mate is out there. It's just that regardless of age, you still have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince!